What is your parenting pet peeve?

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Who are all these parents preventing their kids from napping? I have never met one. Everyone loves their peace and quiet. PP with the napping sounds like she's patting herself on the back for doing what 99% of parents do: go home and put the kid down for the nap.

Umm me? We like to do family activities on the weekend and don't schedule them around the nap. Our toddler might sleep in the car or stroller when we're on the go. Otherwise we'll try to push his nap to the morning or late afternoon. Sometimes when we visit family he'll go to bed an hour or two late in the evening. Yes, he's not a great sleeper but it's what works best for our family.

Toddlers NEED good naps. It may be more convenient for you, but it does NOT "work best" for your child.

PP here. What do other parents do? Do they stay home in the afternoons? DS regular nap is 1-3 pm.

Yeah, unless it's something really important or unavoidable, at least one of us is home with the toddler for naptime.

I don't agree with this. If a kid is tired they can fall asleep anywhere. If not, they can sleep at bedtime. The whole world doesn't stop because you're sleepy. Kids are so coddled these days.

What? My mom and my grandmother both made sure that their kids took naps. And my grandma has six kids and was not the coddling type. My mom says that you can't expect kids or dogs to behave well unless they get enough to eat, enough sleep, and enough exercise. Kids need sleep, and they can't sleep anywhere. Can you sleep sitting up, or being taken in and out of places, or sitting on the sidelines at a soccer game, or in the grocery store?

Also, if this is your attitude and your kid is cranky or badly behaved or sleeps poorly at night, don't whine about it. It's your own fault.

We just adjust our son's nap if we know we have things to do. Simple enough.

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Simple for your kid, PP. Not necessarily for others.

I guess that's my pet peeve - parents that assume that because something is easy or works for their child that the same is true for all children.

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My 3 yr old stopped napping when she started sleeping through the night at 14 months old. My 2 yr old naps, and can happily nap anywhere. In the stroller, on a lounge chair, in someone's arms, on a blanket on the grass, on a restaurant bench.

So we go out and run around all day, sometimes keeping the kids out late at night. It's no problem, because both will fall asleep when they're tired. However, they are easy that way. Not all kids sleep easily. I assume that's why some people stay home in the afternoons.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate parents who follow their kids on the play equipment and glare at uou if you're not able to shadow your three year old because you're watching the younger kid a little. You're endangering the kids and you're exhausting. I also hate parents who clearly only really parent on the weekends - and I wprk part time - but manage to be sanctimoniois and over the top re positive parenting etc in loud voices. Tiring.

Or you're not shadowing your three-year-old because they don't need it. My three-year-old can manage the 2-5 equipment completely on her own and doesn't need me to use it safely.

Also, fuck off about parents who "only parent on the weekends." Parents who have full-time jobs are still full-time parents.

It's the same 3 y.o. who grabs other kids' toys, hits, throws sand into others's eyes, because you are to lazy to watch him and correct him.

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Anonymous wrote:Simple for your kid, PP. Not necessarily for others.

I guess that's my pet peeve - parents that assume that because something is easy or works for their child that the same is true for all children.

Every word of this, a million times.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate parents who follow their kids on the play equipment and glare at uou if you're not able to shadow your three year old because you're watching the younger kid a little. You're endangering the kids and you're exhausting. I also hate parents who clearly only really parent on the weekends - and I wprk part time - but manage to be sanctimoniois and over the top re positive parenting etc in loud voices. Tiring.

Or you're not shadowing your three-year-old because they don't need it. My three-year-old can manage the 2-5 equipment completely on her own and doesn't need me to use it safely.

Also, fuck off about parents who "only parent on the weekends." Parents who have full-time jobs are still full-time parents.

It's the same 3 y.o. who grabs other kids' toys, hits, throws sand into others's eyes, because you are to lazy to watch him and correct him.

Nope. I watch her, and I correct her (on the very rare occasions when she tries to take a toy, given that she's never hit another kid or thrown sand on them), but I don't need to shadow her on the playground equipment, because she is totally capable of climbing the steps and sliding down the slide on her own. Helicopter =/= discipline.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate parents who follow their kids on the play equipment and glare at uou if you're not able to shadow your three year old because you're watching the younger kid a little. You're endangering the kids and you're exhausting. I also hate parents who clearly only really parent on the weekends - and I wprk part time - but manage to be sanctimoniois and over the top re positive parenting etc in loud voices. Tiring.

Or you're not shadowing your three-year-old because they don't need it. My three-year-old can manage the 2-5 equipment completely on her own and doesn't need me to use it safely.

Also, fuck off about parents who "only parent on the weekends." Parents who have full-time jobs are still full-time parents.

It's the same 3 y.o. who grabs other kids' toys, hits, throws sand into others's eyes, because you are to lazy to watch him and correct him.

So your kid hurts other kids as soon as you're no longer in arms' reach? What a shitty parent you must be. I know lots of parents who don't have to shadow their kids so closely because they've taught them how to behave.

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Parents who call anything before kindergarten "school."

If your child is under the age of 5, he is not going to school. He is going to preschool, or daycare or moms' day out. Stop trying to justify it by calling it school - drop him off, let him have fun and socialize and do what you've got to/want to do. It's ok. Really.

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Not breastfeeding just 'cuz. Lazy lazy lazy.

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Anonymous wrote:CIO.

Other than that...I am very maternal and love being a mom. Best job in the whole world.

oh, PUKE!

This PP is my parenting pet peeve.

And the PP who puked and probably is a strong CIO advocate - makes me wonder why do people who hate being parents have kids?

Double PUKE!

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Who are all these parents preventing their kids from napping? I have never met one. Everyone loves their peace and quiet. PP with the napping sounds like she's patting herself on the back for doing what 99% of parents do: go home and put the kid down for the nap.

Umm me? We like to do family activities on the weekend and don't schedule them around the nap. Our toddler might sleep in the car or stroller when we're on the go. Otherwise we'll try to push his nap to the morning or late afternoon. Sometimes when we visit family he'll go to bed an hour or two late in the evening. Yes, he's not a great sleeper but it's what works best for our family.

Toddlers NEED good naps. It may be more convenient for you, but it does NOT "work best" for your child.

PP here. What do other parents do? Do they stay home in the afternoons? DS regular nap is 1-3 pm.

Yeah, unless it's something really important or unavoidable, at least one of us is home with the toddler for naptime.

I don't agree with this. If a kid is tired they can fall asleep anywhere. If not, they can sleep at bedtime. The whole world doesn't stop because you're sleepy. Kids are so coddled these days.

What? My mom and my grandmother both made sure that their kids took naps. And my grandma has six kids and was not the coddling type. My mom says that you can't expect kids or dogs to behave well unless they get enough to eat, enough sleep, and enough exercise. Kids need sleep, and they can't sleep anywhere. Can you sleep sitting up, or being taken in and out of places, or sitting on the sidelines at a soccer game, or in the grocery store?

Also, if this is your attitude and your kid is cranky or badly behaved or sleeps poorly at night, don't whine about it. It's your own fault.

EXACTLY. This whole nap-in-the-car/nap-on-the go trend is new; it's a product of our too-busy society. You need to make infant/baby/toddler naps a priority. Period. It is a NEED, like food and water and diaper changes. Maybe sign your other kids up for fewer activities. Maybe don't expect to have the same social life you had before kids/before having another kid. Maybe learn to say no and put your baby/toddler FIRST.

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Anonymous wrote:Not breastfeeding just 'cuz. Lazy lazy lazy.

Maybe we think you're lazy because you sit around with a kid attached to you all day or waste hours of your employer's time to pump?

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Anonymous wrote:Not breastfeeding just 'cuz. Lazy lazy lazy.

Maybe we think you're lazy because you sit around with a kid attached to you all day or waste hours of your employer's time to pump?

Um...hours? I took two 15-minute breaks per day to pump at work. You know...like the exact same amount of time that some people take to SMOKE? It is a mother's legal right to pump at work until the baby's first birthday.

And how, exactly, is it a "waste of time" to feed your baby, and have special closeness at the same time? Newborns need to be fed a ton, both breastfed and bottle-fed. That's just how that stage is. But it doesn't last forever, and it's not a "waste of time!"

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Parents with no sense of humor, either about or with their kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Not breastfeeding just 'cuz. Lazy lazy lazy.

Maybe we think you're lazy because you sit around with a kid attached to you all day or waste hours of your employer's time to pump?

Um...hours? I took two 15-minute breaks per day to pump at work. You know...like the exact same amount of time that some people take to SMOKE? It is a mother's legal right to pump at work until the baby's first birthday.

And how, exactly, is it a "waste of time" to feed your baby, and have special closeness at the same time? Newborns need to be fed a ton, both breastfed and bottle-fed. That's just how that stage is. But it doesn't last forever, and it's not a "waste of time!"

I don't actually think you're lazy. But unlike PP I don't think bottle feeders are lazy either, not do I think feeding method correlates with laziness.