What is your parenting pet peeve?

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Parents who a a slave to their kid's schedule. Way to teach your kid some flexibility!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm Being A Great and Conscientious Mom Voice (hoping you will overhear me and be amazed at what a good parent I am) :

"Henry! You jumped all the way across that hopscotch pad! Way to go! Awesome job, buddy. Can you count to ten now? (Loudly and slowly counts to ten) TERRIFIC! Want a snack? How about WATER AND KALE CHIPS, your favorite! You're very welcome, thank you for your using your manners SO NICELY. Oh no no we don't wipe our mouths on our shirts. What do we do? NAPKIN, YES. Very good. What should we do next? Library then practice writing letters? YOU GOT IT LIL BUDDY!"

hahaha...this cracked me up!

OMG, I'm dying seeing myself in these. I swear, I'm not doing it for other people though! I just don't know how to talk to a toddler!

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Actually, my biggest parenting pet peeve are the people who DO NOT HAVE KIDS who are constantly posting or telling parents how to raise their kids. (I'm thinking of you, Aunt Nancy.) What they should eat, how kids in France are perfect, how to have a good sleeper or eater, that everyone should spank etc. It's endless.

I have to say that in the case of parenting, you just can't know until you've walked a mile in parental shoes.

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Anonymous wrote:Parents who think that every "good" thing their kid does is because THEY did the right thing. News flash: some kids are good eaters, some are good sleepers, some listen well.

Not all of these things are related to your natural childbirth, crying/not crying it out, sleep training/not sleep training.

Sometimes you just get lucky, and if you get too cocky and think your prenatal yoga ensured a good-natured baby, I'm going to laugh all day long when #2 is a high needs basket case.

I agree with this to a point. I do think my kids are good sleepers partially by nature and partially because we were, and continue to be, devoted to them sleeping. My almost 4.5 year old still naps and goes to bed for 12 hours at 7:30. 22 month old does the same schedule and we have a two blissful hours of a quiet house every day. People have rolled their eyes about our devotion to naptime - grandparents were annoyed when we wouldn't "just stay another hour!" etc, but we both have time to work out, have sex, on and on. Yes, we lucked out to a degree, but we pushed it consciously.

That said, I do agree that the parents with the naturally easy, well behaved kid who take full credit and blame others with more complicated kids for their "crappy parenting" are a joke. And mine are pretty easy.

That's great but if you didn't have nappers, there would be no nap to be devoted to. You are lucky. Enjoy!

Totally lucky to a degree, but the friends who laughed at us when we took our kids home to nap last year are now like "we can't believe Johnny still sleeps so well!"

Lady, you are exactly that person -- who credits themselves for their child's good sleeping/eating habits. Trust me, it's not because you are devoted to nap time. It's because you have good sleepers. The end.

No, she is right. It is part luck, part nature, AND part priorities, especially for sleep habits.

Who are all these parents preventing their kids from napping? I have never met one. Everyone loves their peace and quiet. PP with the napping sounds like she's patting herself on the back for doing what 99% of parents do: go home and put the kid down for the nap.

It's usually the cosleepers whose toddlers "won't take" or "don't need" a nap. Translation = my kids depend on me to sleep, and I can't/don't want to nap. Also, lots of parents make lots of exceptions (travel, visitors, activities), and some treat naps as sacred.

NOPE.

We tried so hard, did everything that PP did, and no dice. It is part luck, at least.

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Anonymous wrote:CIO.

Other than that...I am very maternal and love being a mom. Best job in the whole world.

oh, PUKE!

This PP is my parenting pet peeve.

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Anonymous wrote:Another one! I posted about Loden's Mom.

Let's call this The Child Star Syndrome. Your admittedly precocious and verbal child interjects him/her self into adult conversations and demands attention, usually just by talking loudly and interrupting. Of course, (usually) Mom immediately turns all attention to her child and allows her child to hijack the adult conversation - all the while beaming with pride.

Not cute, not endearing and not doing your kid any favors. No one loves your child as much as you do and you are raising your kid to be socially inept.

I agree but THIS IS SO HARD - I do the best I can not to do this!

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Who are all these parents preventing their kids from napping? I have never met one. Everyone loves their peace and quiet. PP with the napping sounds like she's patting herself on the back for doing what 99% of parents do: go home and put the kid down for the nap.

Umm me? We like to do family activities on the weekend and don't schedule them around the nap. Our toddler might sleep in the car or stroller when we're on the go. Otherwise we'll try to push his nap to the morning or late afternoon. Sometimes when we visit family he'll go to bed an hour or two late in the evening. Yes, he's not a great sleeper but it's what works best for our family.

Toddlers NEED good naps. It may be more convenient for you, but it does NOT "work best" for your child.

PP here. What do other parents do? Do they stay home in the afternoons? DS regular nap is 1-3 pm.

Yeah, unless it's something really important or unavoidable, at least one of us is home with the toddler for naptime.

I don't agree with this. If a kid is tired they can fall asleep anywhere. If not, they can sleep at bedtime. The whole world doesn't stop because you're sleepy. Kids are so coddled these days.

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Who are all these parents preventing their kids from napping? I have never met one. Everyone loves their peace and quiet. PP with the napping sounds like she's patting herself on the back for doing what 99% of parents do: go home and put the kid down for the nap.

Umm me? We like to do family activities on the weekend and don't schedule them around the nap. Our toddler might sleep in the car or stroller when we're on the go. Otherwise we'll try to push his nap to the morning or late afternoon. Sometimes when we visit family he'll go to bed an hour or two late in the evening. Yes, he's not a great sleeper but it's what works best for our family.

Toddlers NEED good naps. It may be more convenient for you, but it does NOT "work best" for your child.

PP here. What do other parents do? Do they stay home in the afternoons? DS regular nap is 1-3 pm.

Yeah, unless it's something really important or unavoidable, at least one of us is home with the toddler for naptime.

I don't agree with this. If a kid is tired they can fall asleep anywhere. If not, they can sleep at bedtime. The whole world doesn't stop because you're sleepy. Kids are so coddled these days.

Agree! But I think we're unfortunately in the minority PP!

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Who are all these parents preventing their kids from napping? I have never met one. Everyone loves their peace and quiet. PP with the napping sounds like she's patting herself on the back for doing what 99% of parents do: go home and put the kid down for the nap.

Umm me? We like to do family activities on the weekend and don't schedule them around the nap. Our toddler might sleep in the car or stroller when we're on the go. Otherwise we'll try to push his nap to the morning or late afternoon. Sometimes when we visit family he'll go to bed an hour or two late in the evening. Yes, he's not a great sleeper but it's what works best for our family.

Toddlers NEED good naps. It may be more convenient for you, but it does NOT "work best" for your child.

PP here. What do other parents do? Do they stay home in the afternoons? DS regular nap is 1-3 pm.

Yeah, unless it's something really important or unavoidable, at least one of us is home with the toddler for naptime.

I don't agree with this. If a kid is tired they can fall asleep anywhere. If not, they can sleep at bedtime. The whole world doesn't stop because you're sleepy. Kids are so coddled these days.

What? My mom and my grandmother both made sure that their kids took naps. And my grandma has six kids and was not the coddling type. My mom says that you can't expect kids or dogs to behave well unless they get enough to eat, enough sleep, and enough exercise. Kids need sleep, and they can't sleep anywhere. Can you sleep sitting up, or being taken in and out of places, or sitting on the sidelines at a soccer game, or in the grocery store?

Also, if this is your attitude and your kid is cranky or badly behaved or sleeps poorly at night, don't whine about it. It's your own fault.

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I will fall asleep in the car if I'm sleepy too, but that sleep will be nowhere of the quality of sleep I get in my own bed with the lights off and quiet all around. I don't kid myself that the naps kids take in the car are of the same quality or rest compared to the naps at home.

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Anonymous wrote:Many people I love dearly do this (hi, Mom!), but it irks me greatly when adults constantly tell children to "be careful" from the sidelines and narrate any potential danger to them. If you genuinely think your child is in danger, either tell them to stop or supervise them closely. Otherwise, it's not the end of the world if they occasionally trip and fall, and when they do, it irritates me to hear, "If you hadn't been running, that wouldn't have happened," or, "Be more careful next time," or "I told you you were going to get hurt," etc. etc. etc.

This one confuses me. You want parents not to hover over their kids, but also not to remind them to try not to hurt themselves or to explain that they got hurt because they weren't paying attention?

As I said, supervise your child closely if you feel he's not capable of playing without endangering himself. But my personal pet peeve is adults who think that kids don't understand cause and effect without an adult to hammer it home verbally, and in my experience, kids who constantly hear "Be careful!" tend to tune it out very quickly.

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There's more carnage here than in the Coliseum. Cool it ladies. This isn't a cage match.

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Anonymous wrote:There's more carnage here than in the Coliseum. Cool it ladies. This isn't a cage match.

+1. It's supposed to be a funny thread. Calm down. Everyone just CALM DOWN.

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When parents put their daughters in dresses without leggings/shorts underneath. Hate hearing parents tell their kids on the playground to not show their underwear. Make them sit at home then (being sarcastic) or dress them appropriately so they can do whatever they want to do. None of the boys have to worry about this. It's ridiculous.

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Who are all these parents preventing their kids from napping? I have never met one. Everyone loves their peace and quiet. PP with the napping sounds like she's patting herself on the back for doing what 99% of parents do: go home and put the kid down for the nap.

Umm me? We like to do family activities on the weekend and don't schedule them around the nap. Our toddler might sleep in the car or stroller when we're on the go. Otherwise we'll try to push his nap to the morning or late afternoon. Sometimes when we visit family he'll go to bed an hour or two late in the evening. Yes, he's not a great sleeper but it's what works best for our family.

Toddlers NEED good naps. It may be more convenient for you, but it does NOT "work best" for your child.

PP here. What do other parents do? Do they stay home in the afternoons? DS regular nap is 1-3 pm.

Yeah, unless it's something really important or unavoidable, at least one of us is home with the toddler for naptime.

I don't agree with this. If a kid is tired they can fall asleep anywhere. If not, they can sleep at bedtime. The whole world doesn't stop because you're sleepy. Kids are so coddled these days.

Napping is a new thing? Wow you are a moron. And your kid needs it for brain development. Catch a clue. Sleep is more important that "family activities," whatever that means for a toddler. They are happier to be home sleeping that at the zoo, hot and tired.