Honestly: is 41 too old to have a baby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like how the OP posted in the 50+ forum and asked specifically for responses from people "with life experience" on this path... And so many people that DON'T fit that description are responding with their two cents.

Yes and a few really seem to have very negative views of older women. Like they'll never be "old."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's too old from the child's perspective, that's for sure. Just get some cats or something.

How old were your parents when they had you? 15?

Don't speak for every single child, or something.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I am 50+ and yes I have young children. Had a baby at 43 with help from RE. Too old for many reasons. I would *never* want to not have my DS, but on the other hand, I would not have *chosen* this path, nor would I recommend it to others. One of the few who are speaking from experience. During the baby and toddler years, it was not too bad, but as they get older (and you get older), it is problematic. Speaking for myself. There are books on this subject that explain this far more fully for those who are considering ... obviously does not apply to a woman who is already expecting and is over 40.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I am 50+ and yes I have young children. Had a baby at 43 with help from RE. Too old for many reasons. I would *never* want to not have my DS, but on the other hand, I would not have *chosen* this path, nor would I recommend it to others. One of the few who are speaking from experience. During the baby and toddler years, it was not too bad, but as they get older (and you get older), it is problematic. Speaking for myself. There are books on this subject that explain this far more fully for those who are considering ... obviously does not apply to a woman who is already expecting and is over 40.

PP, hi, thanks for posting. This is OP. can you elaborate? How old is your child now? What have your struggles been? Which books are you referring to?

[Anonymous]

OP again. Also wondering if you would recommend sticking with one child or if you think its better to provide a sibling even if it means having a baby at 41/42.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's too old from the child's perspective, that's for sure. Just get some cats or something.

How old were your parents when they had you? 15?

Don't speak for every single child, or something.

I'm not speaking for every single child, but I would think that most kids would prefer not to be born under those circumstances. Given the choice I would certainly say no thanks.

[Anonymous]

Mom, I wish I was never even born!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's too old from the child's perspective, that's for sure. Just get some cats or something.

How old were your parents when they had you? 15?

Don't speak for every single child, or something.

I'm not speaking for every single child, but I would think that most kids would prefer not to be born under those circumstances. Given the choice I would certainly say no thanks.

Exactly! This is why so many children of older patents commit suicide. NOT

[Anonymous]

I was born to very young mom. That is precisely why I waited until my late 30's and early 40's to have kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was born to very young mom. That is precisely why I waited until my late 30's and early 40's to have kids.

IMO, neglect and doing a poor parenting job can happen at any age. I had my first child at 15; her father and I are married now and we've been together every since. Not to toot my own horn, but we're kick-ass parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op I just had a baby at 41 and love it. Don't care if I am older because the be honest, many of those 30 something peers i see in my mommy groups (who think they are so "young") are more stressed out and look more haggard and old than I do. So, as long as you enjoy it, can handle the stresses maturely, and look good, piece of cake!

You sound like a really mature, caring person. Mocking your friends (by the way, if they're in their early 30s and you're 41, they are "so young" compared to you, let's be honest) who you hang out with, and calling them haggard. You must be a real pal. So hope you're not in my mommy group. By the way, people get "vibes" from people like you and can tell when you're a bitchy person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. Also wondering if you would recommend sticking with one child or if you think its better to provide a sibling even if it means having a baby at 41/42.

OP, do you always solicit advice for every major life decision from anonymous people? Or are you just keeping this thread going so women can keep on insulting other women with different life experiences?

[Anonymous]

22:38, why does it bother you? I like to hear the perspective of others on issues I think about a lot. I especially like to hear from others with experiences I don't have. I cannot control the behavior of those derailing threads.

[Anonymous]

And my question BTW was directed at 13:42 specifically. Unless you had kids over 40 and are now in your 50s, I wasn't really asking you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:22:38, why does it bother you? I like to hear the perspective of others on issues I think about a lot. I especially like to hear from others with experiences I don't have. I cannot control the behavior of those derailing threads.

And my question BTW was directed at 13:42 specifically. Unless you had kids over 40 and are now in your 50s, I wasn't really asking you.

22:38 here -- because you keep baiting the haters. And yes, I am 50+, have near college-age kids and answered earlier in the thread.