Does it bother you to see families super underdressed at church?

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Anonymous wrote:We have an agreement with teen DCs, if attending Sun AM they dress for the occasion. Sat/Sub evening Mass, jeans and a nice top.

That seems to track with what I see at evening Saturday mass vs. morning Sunday mass. Is this a known, like unwritten rule custom sort of thing or is it an organic thing?

This is us too, though just by custom. My kids are now in college and both still go to church most weekends.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it goes hand and hand. You're setting the tone that this is something to take seriously and worthy of respect. It's once a week for an hour or two. Why is it so hard for people to demonstrate some level CARE?

How you dress is *independent* of your ability to care. It is *independent* of showing respect. Care and respect are about how you *act*, not how you *look*. Thankfully more and more people these days have realized that and moved beyond this kind of superficial judgement. It must be all us 90's kids who took to heart that lesson that it's what is on the inside that matters, not what is on the outside.

I'll note, as an atheist, that when I was a teenager growing up, I did have people tell me outside of church that they hadn't liked how I dressed in church. That was something that certainly helped me realize that the people who were attending church didn't actually care about things that mattered. It wasn't the final step in me realizing it wasn't real, but it certainly was something hat helped.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it goes hand and hand. You're setting the tone that this is something to take seriously and worthy of respect. It's once a week for an hour or two. Why is it so hard for people to demonstrate some level CARE?

How you dress is *independent* of your ability to care. It is *independent* of showing respect. Care and respect are about how you *act*, not how you *look*. Thankfully more and more people these days have realized that and moved beyond this kind of superficial judgement. It must be all us 90's kids who took to heart that lesson that it's what is on the inside that matters, not what is on the outside.

I'll note, as an atheist, that when I was a teenager growing up, I did have people tell me outside of church that they hadn't liked how I dressed in church. That was something that certainly helped me realize that the people who were attending church didn't actually care about things that mattered. It wasn't the final step in me realizing it wasn't real, but it certainly was something hat helped.

If someone commented that you were not dressed properly for a concert, would you have given up concerts?
(PS - I don't think religion is real, either.)

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t care one bit. No one needs to be dressed up to attend church.

Why did everyone dress up for church in the 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, 90s? You don't think that looked much nicer? You don't admire a random good looking family wearing their Sunday best if you see one on a Sunday afternoon? Come on, we all do.

This erosion of effort and appearance and coming to church in casual clothes seems to be a relatively new phenomenon.

People got fat, OP. And that meant the need for elastic waist bands, and it was all downhill from there.

I'm being semi-serious.

People don't dress nicely in society at all anymore. Men used to wear suits and fedoras out and about. They no longer do.

Women used to wear skirts or dresses or even jeans. Now they paint their asses with leggings that show every curve and their cameltoes and prance around like they're proud when they should be feeling embarrassment and shame.

Sean Duffy was on to something when he asked people to dress nicely for flying again. Bring back the stratoliners!

There is some truth to this. It's part of why everyone is focused on being "comfortable." And that effects what people are wearing in various contexts.

But you need to drop the ugly misogyny.

But now we're a nation on Ozempic so people should be dressing up more.

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Become a Mormon if you want to dress up for church.

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Anonymous wrote:EVERYONE on here would agree -- if we're all being honest -- that it's really lovely to see a well-groomed and well-dressed (and well behaved) random family on a Sunday morning or Sunday afternoon. Why? Why does it make us instinctively smile and give us some sort of dopamine rush to see such effort and appearance in another family?

If that's a perfectly normal reaction to seeing a well-groomed family, then to the contrary can also stoke legitimate feelings of being bothered. It is perfectly natural and reasonable to want to see people put some effort into their appearance in your church.

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No. It doesn’t bother me.

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No. I assume their soccer team scheduled a match before or after church, or there was something else going on in their lives. Or they decided God doesn't care what you wear, and that's a fine take too.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it goes hand and hand. You're setting the tone that this is something to take seriously and worthy of respect. It's once a week for an hour or two. Why is it so hard for people to demonstrate some level CARE?

How you dress is *independent* of your ability to care. It is *independent* of showing respect. Care and respect are about how you *act*, not how you *look*. Thankfully more and more people these days have realized that and moved beyond this kind of superficial judgement. It must be all us 90's kids who took to heart that lesson that it's what is on the inside that matters, not what is on the outside.

I'll note, as an atheist, that when I was a teenager growing up, I did have people tell me outside of church that they hadn't liked how I dressed in church. That was something that certainly helped me realize that the people who were attending church didn't actually care about things that mattered. It wasn't the final step in me realizing it wasn't real, but it certainly was something hat helped.

If someone commented that you were not dressed properly for a concert, would you have given up concerts?
(PS - I don't think religion is real, either.)

The people at the concert aren't claiming to have divinely inspired morality.

When you realize that the organization that is supposed to be "the moral-est" isn't, in fact, being very moral, it helps you to deconstruct.

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If God does not love you enough to give you the financial resources to purchase expensive clothing, then you are not worthy of the love of God

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Anonymous wrote:If God does not love you enough to give you the financial resources to purchase expensive clothing, then you are not worthy of the love of God

And some people might actually believe that.

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Some people don’t go to church because of the clothing requirement, but there are some churches where nobody dresses up. Join that church instead

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Anonymous wrote:Some people don’t go to church because of the clothing requirement, but there are some churches where nobody dresses up. Join that church instead

But isn't church more about "worshipping" God than about being comfortable?

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Anonymous wrote:No. I assume their soccer team scheduled a match before or after church, or there was something else going on in their lives. Or they decided God doesn't care what you wear, and that's a fine take too.

+1 we are always headed to some type of game right afterwards

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Americans in general are known for dressing down. Other people don’t come outside in pajamas usually.