Sofia Vergara and Joe Manganiello divorce
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| Sofia confirmed in People magazine that they divorced over having kids. |
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they didn't discuss this before they married? |
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Yeah, I thought that was weird. Though it wouldn't be the first time someone entered into a marriage believing the other person would change. Or his own mind changed at some point. |
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I’m sure they did, but people change their mind over this all the time. Hello Jon Hamm. Hello Ashton Kutcher This has always been a known risk when a much older woman married a much younger man. I was not surprised at all. In fact, I assumed this would happen. |
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I’m sure they discussed it. It was pretty obvious and she was already a mom and older and had that horrible saga with her ex-husband over the embryos that she was likely pretty clear she didn’t want kids. I’m sure at the time he was on board with that, and then changed his mind. It sounds like they are both relieved to have moved on and hopefully on good terms. It’s sad that he didn’t realize this until later. People always say oh men have much more time, but I just don’t think it’s true. Sure if you’re wealthy and successful, you can easily land a younger woman, which he has already done, but he still going to be his age when he has kids and I just would not want to be an early 50s Dad on the playground. And I feel bad for his future young wife who will likely have to take care of kids and probably take care of an aging husband when she still has many years ahead of her. It’s not for me but to each their own. |
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Sofia is only 4 years older than him. That’s not a big gap at all. |
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It is if the woman is older. |
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It's not a big age gap for two people with similar backgrounds. She had an adult son and had been married before and knew what it meant to be a parent, what it meant to be married, what both of these things mean over time, well after the wedding. Even though he was only 4 years younger than she was, he had far less life experience. So for her to say "I don't want more children," this was a very informed choice that she was likely very firm on and understood the implications of. For him to say he didn't want kids... this was likely more of an in-the-moment feeling, having fallen in love with this great woman, having fun working and traveling and having the money and access to do it in a really enjoyable way. He probably genuinely did not want kids when he said that. But it wasn't informed by much. He didn't know what it was like to be 5, 6, 7 years into a marriage, when it's not enough to just be very attracted to your partner (and when attraction tends to wane even if they are as hot as ever). He didn't know, as she did, what a deep relationship with your child can look like and how it can enrich your life. Probably one of the things that changed his mind was seeing Sofia with her son year after year, as they are very close and seem to have a great relationship. I think it would be hard to be around that and not think "I wish I had a relationship like that with someone." He just didn't know. Four years is nothing if you are both in your 20s or early 30s, everything is on the table (in terms of the possibility of having kids), and you have similar relationship backgrounds and either both have kids or neither have kids. But their relationship was very unequal in terms of life experience and I think that probably made it doomed. Likely he settled into the relationship, got antsy, and this is when people who aren't interested in cheating start thinking "maybe I do want kids after all." Because life is long and there are only so many place you can travel and eventually you want a different kind of experience. She'd already had it, he hadn't, it makes sense they split so they could both be happy. Tough for her though because it can be so hard at her age to find a guy like that who really adores you and likes what you like. He can remarry and have kids and get everything he wants. She may need to content herself with being single or serial monogamy, which is too bad because she seems great and also like she wants a true partner. |
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That's what Sofia said..he wanted a baby and she did not |
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| She will get older and lonelier (and washed up in Hollywood) and end up putting those fertilized eggs she has with the financier ex ex into a surrogate. I give it five years. |
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Things change. For example, I divorced over not having kids. We discussed it but I later changed my mind and wanted kids. I had to compromise on where to live for his career but kids isn’t something you really compromise on. So I left. He may have been ok without kids but then decided he wanted them. |
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My friend is going through this now. She and her partner moved in together when she was 35 and he was 32. They talked about having kids and she emphasized that they would have to start trying right away if they were going to try to have a child. He said he didn't want any. She turned 40 six months ago and now suddenly he might want kids. Of course he's still not motivated or interested enough to talk to her about their options. He just...might want kids. She's done some preliminary appointments on her own and just got diagnosed with endometriosis. He's clearly going to leave her eventually but neither of them is communicating. It's very frustrating to watch. |
Anonymous
Will not happen. That ex will never get a dime of her money (what he is after, not kids). She'll find a new partner and enjoy her unencumbered life, as she should. Ageist nonsense to suggest otherwise. |
Anonymous
What? That financier is 50x richer than she is. |