Dooce /Heather Armstrong
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Anonymous
Yes exactly. Heather was no victim! No one is forcing any of these people to seek out the sites that criticize them and read bad things people think about you. Ultimately you’re putting yourself out there desperately wanting to be seen, validated and liked and when /if it doesn’t happen you have to have a thick skin. It’s not GOMI, Alice, DCUM, Reddit or any other blog’s responsibility to thought police the reactions and opinions people have. |
Anonymous
That first piece linked to is the most self-indulgent piece of garbage. Is that what her "writing" was always like? This woman became famous being a "mommy blogger?" This was not gifted writing. I am sorry for her family, but how did this person become famous? I had never heard of her and I would never have spend a mninute reading that stuff if it all reads like that. |
Anonymous
| It was a different time. |
Anonymous
You’re an ignoramus. You might as well take tears to lean that people shouldn’t get cancer either. She didn’t choose to have the disease she fought mightily for 15 years. She tried literally every antidepressant. She tried experimental treatments. She fought to live with every fiber of her being. She stayed as long as she could. |
Anonymous
People probably tried to intervene after the video. I don't think you understand what it is like to deal with an addict. Every expert will tell you that if they won't go back for help, you detach with love and let them deal with their consequences and hit rock bottom. I know people would like to think you get a group of people together and stage an intervention and the person gets help and we all live happily ever after. Many addicts burn bridge after bridge. They can seem vulnerable and doe like to the outside world while they are downright abusive to loved ones trying to push them to get help. I am not saying this Dooce, but I am saying addiction is quite a beast. |
Anonymous
NP and the her obit-linked blog post was a rambling, incoherent mess. D- writing. |
Anonymous
Oooh I LOVE GOMI and consider it a sister site to DCUM!!! Both moderators have a LOT in common and the pool of commenters does too. |
Anonymous
OMG - I didn't know that about Amy Storch. That's terrible. I followed her for a long time. I hope she is better now. |
Anonymous
| It was really sad. I don’t know if I misremembered the details but at some point she did have a wrist bandage. But yes I was a big fan of hers (am still) and we have kids the same age, it’s beyond sad. Hopefully she turned her life around! From what she shows things seem OK but how can we ever know as outsiders. It’s a private hell. https://www.amalah.com/amalah/2018/06/the-night-of.html |
Anonymous
Jeff and Alice are nothing alike. |
Anonymous
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Long time reader - I was always struck with how Heather went to extremes - from running up and down the stairs in her basement to becoming strict paleo to becoming a vegan to marathoning while injured. She mourned the death of Coco in a way that seemed more like the loss of a child. In recent years, her vague, rambling and cryptic postings were frustrating to read (what WERE her stomach issues?) and her continuous "finding" of the actual true issues (addiction, eating disorder, saved by Pete, saved by Paris, saved by meditation) left me wondering why I bothered to try to follow along.
Regardless, she was a wildly talented and funny writer, photographer, and artist and will be missed. RIP dooce |
Anonymous
When people commit suicide, they often believe that they are so screwed up that their continuing living is more of a burden to people than a suicide would be. They are wrong, and that's tragic, but this is what the disease that causes suicide tell you -- that your loved ones would be better off if you weren't there. When people like you express this kind of rage on this issue, it makes people like me, who have experienced suicidal ideation, feel like we simply are not cut out to live in this world. If you really care about other people's kids, you might try to cultivate some compassion for people who struggle with depression. Your current approach simply makes the world harsher, less forgiving, harder to live in. You are contributing to the problem you claim to abhor. |
Anonymous
| How is amalah doing? I thought of her when I heard the dooce news. I hope she is well. |
Anonymous
NP. I agree with this. I had an uncle who killed himself and his family was devastated from it and never recovered. It's really a terrible thing to do. People who are depressed have disordered thinking - that's why they need to make a promise that they will never kill themself and stick to it. Always. |
Anonymous
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I haven't kept up with Dooce but I did used to love her blog/writing when she was pregnant/had little ones. I guess people have criticisms of things she has said and done more recently, but she seemed to me to have a really great heart. I loved those momversations videos.
She definitely made people feel less alone. She should be honored just for that contribution. May she rest in peace. |