Ding dong ditching and cops brought home

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How is this different than being boo’d?

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Anonymous wrote:^and I wouldn’t think anything of them going out at 10pm. It wouldn’t occur to me they would ding dong ditch.

The the PP. I would. What would they possibly be up to at 10 pm outside that isn’t trouble? I wouldn’t allow it. If they want to hang out outside at 10pm, they can stay on the patio and around the yard. Not roam around the neighborhood

OP here. I guess in my mind walking to the park (basically a small little pocket park) half a block a way at 10 pm is not roaming. Again, it is on me for thinking they would just do that and I should have kept a closer watch. I will be honest and say that I tend to approach things like this from a POV of letting kids feel some sense of freedom and fun rather than one of constant suspicion. These kids didn't warrant concern in that way. That is on me, yes. Honestly, I was just glad they were not cooped up in his room gaming. Now I know better.

I'm in my 50s and was, as were all my friends, free range kids. My parents had no idea where I was during the day. Yet, the rule for us and all the kids I hung out with were that we had to be home by dark. In the summer time where I grew up, that was about 9PM. Just why do you think that was? Even in the 'good old days', our parents knew nothing good came of young teens being out after dark. I can't believe your naiveté and poor judgment.

80s kid. We always had to be home when the street lights came on.

This has zero to do with free range parenting.

How did you hunt for nightcrawlers before dark? How did you catch lightning bugs before dark?

Backyard

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Anonymous wrote:^and I wouldn’t think anything of them going out at 10pm. It wouldn’t occur to me they would ding dong ditch.

The the PP. I would. What would they possibly be up to at 10 pm outside that isn’t trouble? I wouldn’t allow it. If they want to hang out outside at 10pm, they can stay on the patio and around the yard. Not roam around the neighborhood

OP here. I guess in my mind walking to the park (basically a small little pocket park) half a block a way at 10 pm is not roaming. Again, it is on me for thinking they would just do that and I should have kept a closer watch. I will be honest and say that I tend to approach things like this from a POV of letting kids feel some sense of freedom and fun rather than one of constant suspicion. These kids didn't warrant concern in that way. That is on me, yes. Honestly, I was just glad they were not cooped up in his room gaming. Now I know better.

I'm in my 50s and was, as were all my friends, free range kids. My parents had no idea where I was during the day. Yet, the rule for us and all the kids I hung out with were that we had to be home by dark. In the summer time where I grew up, that was about 9PM. Just why do you think that was? Even in the 'good old days', our parents knew nothing good came of young teens being out after dark. I can't believe your naiveté and poor judgment.

80s kid. We always had to be home when the street lights came on.

This has zero to do with free range parenting.

How did you hunt for nightcrawlers before dark? How did you catch lightning bugs before dark?

You can do those things in your yard and you can do them at dusk. No 14 year old is out there in the park at 10pm with a gang of friends catching lightening bugs.

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Anonymous wrote:How is this different than being boo’d?

One involves getting a gift. How is this a question?

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Anonymous wrote:How is this different than being boo’d?

Really?! I just can't even. . .

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Golden rule: Be home before dark.

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Anonymous wrote:My 8th grader and his friends did this. My husband went out and caught them, not the police. We chewed the entire group out.

I also let them know how stupid they are since everybody in our neighborhood has a Ring doorbell and can see who it was.

On a side note, we loved doing this growing up in the 80s. Prank calls too were hilarious (long before caller ID). My brother and his friends also would take our remote and go in the back of homes with sliding glass doors and change the channels when people were watching. They never knew what was going on and why their TV was acting up.

But, police are right, people are on edge, crazy and packing these days.

They were packing in the 80s too, kids were just raised with more sense back then.

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All this prank call stuff made me think back to my day. We totally prank called people. But it was during the day, and it was usually people we knew. And it was like, obviously a prank like “is your refrigerator running?” nonsense.

But once my mom got a call and it was a male voice asking how her husband was doing “after that terrible accident”. My mom was like what?? And the person laughed and hung up. My mom spent time calling my dads work, eventually pulling him out of a meeting (this is all pre cell phone) to make sure he was ok. She was in tears.

There are pranks and there are pranks. Seven year olds knocking on a door at 2pm and then giggling and running off, that you can see through your window, to someone they know like a friends mom, ok. Fine. Fourteen year olds to unknown houses , in a pack, in the middle of the night ? No. And don’t pretend you don’t see the difference between these two “pranks”.

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Anonymous wrote:^and I wouldn’t think anything of them going out at 10pm. It wouldn’t occur to me they would ding dong ditch.

The the PP. I would. What would they possibly be up to at 10 pm outside that isn’t trouble? I wouldn’t allow it. If they want to hang out outside at 10pm, they can stay on the patio and around the yard. Not roam around the neighborhood

OP here. I guess in my mind walking to the park (basically a small little pocket park) half a block a way at 10 pm is not roaming. Again, it is on me for thinking they would just do that and I should have kept a closer watch. I will be honest and say that I tend to approach things like this from a POV of letting kids feel some sense of freedom and fun rather than one of constant suspicion. These kids didn't warrant concern in that way. That is on me, yes. Honestly, I was just glad they were not cooped up in his room gaming. Now I know better.

I'm in my 50s and was, as were all my friends, free range kids. My parents had no idea where I was during the day. Yet, the rule for us and all the kids I hung out with were that we had to be home by dark. In the summer time where I grew up, that was about 9PM. Just why do you think that was? Even in the 'good old days', our parents knew nothing good came of young teens being out after dark. I can't believe your naiveté and poor judgment.

80s kid. We always had to be home when the street lights came on.

This has zero to do with free range parenting.

How did you hunt for nightcrawlers before dark? How did you catch lightning bugs before dark?

Lightning bugs are best caught at dusk and worms in the morning after rain.

[Anonymous]

Op here again:

- it was definitely not a harmless prank. It scared people and put the kids in danger.

- this is probably the craziest/most dangerous thing that has happened in our HOA controlled and master planned community in the last few years where everyone has cameras all over their houses. I stand by the safety of letting them go down the street (these little pocket parks are basically lawns controlled by HOA in our walled in community in the suburbs) but I erred in trusting the kids’ judgment so that’s on me.

- I’m talking to the rest of the parents today. Some went home as a group.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here again:

- it was definitely not a harmless prank. It scared people and put the kids in danger.

- this is probably the craziest/most dangerous thing that has happened in our HOA controlled and master planned community in the last few years where everyone has cameras all over their houses. I stand by the safety of letting them go down the street (these little pocket parks are basically lawns controlled by HOA in our walled in community in the suburbs) but I erred in trusting the kids’ judgment so that’s on me.

- I’m talking to the rest of the parents today. Some went home as a group.

FYI, teens in your HOA controlled, walled-off,:gated community neighborhood are having sex and doing drugs, probably in those parks

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Anonymous wrote:How is this different than being boo’d?

You get candy when you're boo'd.

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Trayvon Martin

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You know how when you bend a plant around a stake it grows like that and then you can take the stake out and it stays in that corkscrew shape? I really can't understand how kids can grow up normal in this area when something as normal -- and predictable -- as ding dong ditch is viewed as dangerous and frightening. Come on, people.

Yes, scold your DC. Tell them you thought they knew better. Take them around to the neighbors to apologize. End of story. Not the end of the world. PERFECTLY NORMAL BEHAVIOR.

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Anonymous wrote:All this prank call stuff made me think back to my day. We totally prank called people. But it was during the day, and it was usually people we knew. And it was like, obviously a prank like “is your refrigerator running?” nonsense.

But once my mom got a call and it was a male voice asking how her husband was doing “after that terrible accident”. My mom was like what?? And the person laughed and hung up. My mom spent time calling my dads work, eventually pulling him out of a meeting (this is all pre cell phone) to make sure he was ok. She was in tears.

There are pranks and there are pranks. Seven year olds knocking on a door at 2pm and then giggling and running off, that you can see through your window, to someone they know like a friends mom, ok. Fine. Fourteen year olds to unknown houses , in a pack, in the middle of the night ? No. And don’t pretend you don’t see the difference between these two “pranks”.

I see the difference: a seven year old wouldn't do that. A 14 year old would. It's normal, age-appropriate behavior.