IVF embryo error, custody settlement

[Anonymous]

Has anyone been following the story of the couple who mistakenly received an embryo that was not their own, then pursued custody after the infant (different race/ethnicity) was born? Amazingly they will have primary custody of the now six-month-old child. If I were the biological parents, I would not have been able to agree to that, but I guess I'm happy for the couple that it worked out the way they hoped.

https://people.com/couple-ivf-embryo-mixup-reach-custody-agreement-daughters-biological-parents-11998206

[Anonymous]

I haven't followed it all the way, but I remember being shocked that they located the biological parents and they didn't choose to sue for custody. I get why it's not the birth couple's fault, but I couldn't be so generous.

I went through IVF and I can't imagine being either couple in this scenario.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't followed it all the way, but I remember being shocked that they located the biological parents and they didn't choose to sue for custody. I get why it's not the birth couple's fault, but I couldn't be so generous.

I went through IVF and I can't imagine being either couple in this scenario.

I think it was a very loving choice by the genetic parents. They didn't want to take a baby from the only family it has known or put parents who had bonded with and carried a baby through the pain of loss.

[Anonymous]

The biological parents - do they have a child? Or did they have one at the same time? Or were they not planning to use their embryo in the future?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't followed it all the way, but I remember being shocked that they located the biological parents and they didn't choose to sue for custody. I get why it's not the birth couple's fault, but I couldn't be so generous.

I went through IVF and I can't imagine being either couple in this scenario.

I think it was a very loving choice by the genetic parents. They didn't want to take a baby from the only family it has known or put parents who had bonded with and carried a baby through the pain of loss.

I agree with this. It's not in the baby's best interest to be taken from the people she knows as her parents.

If I were the biological parents, I would ask the couple if I could be in the baby's life in some way - not custody, but as family friends, more like an aunt. But I would respect their wishes no matter what they chose.

[Anonymous]

Both are the biological parents as the woman who carried the baby is also connected, just as much if not more. Courts do crazy things. The child belongs to the woman who carried it. This wasn't a surrogacy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't followed it all the way, but I remember being shocked that they located the biological parents and they didn't choose to sue for custody. I get why it's not the birth couple's fault, but I couldn't be so generous.

I went through IVF and I can't imagine being either couple in this scenario.

I think it was a very loving choice by the genetic parents. They didn't want to take a baby from the only family it has known or put parents who had bonded with and carried a baby through the pain of loss.

Well sure, I called it generous. I just couldn't do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both are the biological parents as the woman who carried the baby is also connected, just as much if not more. Courts do crazy things. The child belongs to the woman who carried it. This wasn't a surrogacy.

This is a strange, wrong take on at least 3 levels.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't followed it all the way, but I remember being shocked that they located the biological parents and they didn't choose to sue for custody. I get why it's not the birth couple's fault, but I couldn't be so generous.

I went through IVF and I can't imagine being either couple in this scenario.

I think it was a very loving choice by the genetic parents. They didn't want to take a baby from the only family it has known or put parents who had bonded with and carried a baby through the pain of loss.

Well sure, I called it generous. I just couldn't do it.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't followed it all the way, but I remember being shocked that they located the biological parents and they didn't choose to sue for custody. I get why it's not the birth couple's fault, but I couldn't be so generous.

I went through IVF and I can't imagine being either couple in this scenario.

I think it was a very loving choice by the genetic parents. They didn't want to take a baby from the only family it has known or put parents who had bonded with and carried a baby through the pain of loss.

Well sure, I called it generous. I just couldn't do it.

+1

Maybe the couple "lucked out" in the sense that the biological parents had already completed their family, and it was a surplus embryo. We're not given any details but it could be something along those lines.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't followed it all the way, but I remember being shocked that they located the biological parents and they didn't choose to sue for custody. I get why it's not the birth couple's fault, but I couldn't be so generous.

I went through IVF and I can't imagine being either couple in this scenario.

I think it was a very loving choice by the genetic parents. They didn't want to take a baby from the only family it has known or put parents who had bonded with and carried a baby through the pain of loss.

Well sure, I called it generous. I just couldn't do it.

+1

Maybe the couple "lucked out" in the sense that the biological parents had already completed their family, and it was a surplus embryo. We're not given any details but it could be something along those lines.

I hope this was the case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both are the biological parents as the woman who carried the baby is also connected, just as much if not more. Courts do crazy things. The child belongs to the woman who carried it. This wasn't a surrogacy.

This is literally the definition of surrogacy. A woman carried another couple’s embryo and gave birth to a healthy baby with no genetic connection to herself.

If that’s not surrogacy, what is?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't followed it all the way, but I remember being shocked that they located the biological parents and they didn't choose to sue for custody. I get why it's not the birth couple's fault, but I couldn't be so generous.

I went through IVF and I can't imagine being either couple in this scenario.

I think it was a very loving choice by the genetic parents. They didn't want to take a baby from the only family it has known or put parents who had bonded with and carried a baby through the pain of loss.

Well sure, I called it generous. I just couldn't do it.

+1

Maybe the couple "lucked out" in the sense that the biological parents had already completed their family, and it was a surplus embryo. We're not given any details but it could be something along those lines.

Is that actually lucky? Can you imagine being the biological couple’s other children and knowing that your parents would just give your siblings away? It would make me feel very disposable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone been following the story of the couple who mistakenly received an embryo that was not their own, then pursued custody after the infant (different race/ethnicity) was born? Amazingly they will have primary custody of the now six-month-old child. If I were the biological parents, I would not have been able to agree to that, but I guess I'm happy for the couple that it worked out the way they hoped.

https://people.com/couple-ivf-embryo-mixup-reach-custody-agreement-daughters-biological-parents-11998206

The biological parents did not want custody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone been following the story of the couple who mistakenly received an embryo that was not their own, then pursued custody after the infant (different race/ethnicity) was born? Amazingly they will have primary custody of the now six-month-old child. If I were the biological parents, I would not have been able to agree to that, but I guess I'm happy for the couple that it worked out the way they hoped.

https://people.com/couple-ivf-embryo-mixup-reach-custody-agreement-daughters-biological-parents-11998206

The biological parents did not want custody.

Where does it say that? They could be sharing custody.