Graduation gift for unresponsible nephew

[Anonymous]

My husband and I want to give our nephew a fairly generous sum for his high school graduation to help him as he heads to college next year. Problem is that he's a bit flighty and not super responsible. Would it be worth it to come up with a way to disperse it over time, or am I overthinking this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I want to give our nephew a fairly generous sum for his high school graduation to help him as he heads to college next year. Problem is that he's a bit flighty and not super responsible. Would it be worth it to come up with a way to disperse it over time, or am I overthinking this?

LOL I have that nephew too. You are nice, I am just giving him a nice card and $100.

[Anonymous]

You’re overthinking it. A gift is just that. Find an amount you’re comfortable giving him without worrying about how he chooses to spend it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re overthinking it. A gift is just that. Find an amount you’re comfortable giving him without worrying about how he chooses to spend it.

This, you can reconsider the big gift in 4 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I want to give our nephew a fairly generous sum for his high school graduation to help him as he heads to college next year. Problem is that he's a bit flighty and not super responsible. Would it be worth it to come up with a way to disperse it over time, or am I overthinking this?

LOL I have that nephew too. You are nice, I am just giving him a nice card and $100.

Do we all have the same nephew? I gave a card and $100 as well.

[Anonymous]

Yea OP you're overthinking it. Just give the damned gift and be done with it.

[Anonymous]

Irresponsible?

[Anonymous]

You're a bad speller and have bad judgment, OP.

Give him a smaller sum that you're comfortable seeing pissed away. You cannot control the money or attach strings to it. He doesn't actually "need" a large sum from you (even though you might like playing Lady Bountiful).

[Anonymous]

$100 in a card and a 4-year CD.

[Anonymous]

Good god.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I want to give our nephew a fairly generous sum for his high school graduation to help him as he heads to college next year. Problem is that he's a bit flighty and not super responsible. Would it be worth it to come up with a way to disperse it over time, or am I overthinking this?

LOL I have that nephew too. You are nice, I am just giving him a nice card and $100.

Do we all have the same nephew? I gave a card and $100 as well.

There's one in every family!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I want to give our nephew a fairly generous sum for his high school graduation to help him as he heads to college next year. Problem is that he's a bit flighty and not super responsible. Would it be worth it to come up with a way to disperse it over time, or am I overthinking this?

LOL I have that nephew too. You are nice, I am just giving him a nice card and $100.

Do we all have the same nephew? I gave a card and $100 as well.

There's one in every family!

There's one OP in every family, certainly, trying to micromanage her gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yea OP you're overthinking it. Just give the damned gift and be done with it.

+1. Just be equal. Give all nephews and nieces the same amount.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You're a bad speller and have bad judgment, OP.

Give him a smaller sum that you're comfortable seeing pissed away. You cannot control the money or attach strings to it. He doesn't actually "need" a large sum from you (even though you might like playing Lady Bountiful).

+1. I have no idea what any of my nephews and nieces have spent my cash gifts on and I don't care. It's given to celebrate a milestone.

[Anonymous]

I would give them all CDs or 529 contributions.