I hate my husband’s cologne.

[Anonymous]

It’s not a bad smell, but I’m just so over it. He’s been wearing it for nearly two years and I’m just so over the smell. Every morning he sprays it. Even DD has started complaining that the whole house smells like his cologne. When he first started wearing it I loved it! Now it just makes me want to gag. But how do I tell him this without it making him think we have been letting him walk around smelling offensively? I’m about ready to “accidentally” break the bottle. Oops!

[Anonymous]

My goodness, just tell him! You're not impugning his body, only what he puts on it. You can look for additional perfumes together. Maybe you can tell him he needs to rotate, or maybe the bottle has actually gone bad (rare, but it happens).

I love perfume, and buy tiny samples from specialty stores online before choosing larger bottles. The selection in brick and mortars is minuscule compared to the sum total of what's out there. I have a ton of perfume, and pick one every day based on mood. I don't put a lot, so basically it's just me smelling it. If he loves his perfume, get him a non-spray version so he needs to dab it on - it won't be so offensive to others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My goodness, just tell him! You're not impugning his body, only what he puts on it. You can look for additional perfumes together. Maybe you can tell him he needs to rotate, or maybe the bottle has actually gone bad (rare, but it happens).

I love perfume, and buy tiny samples from specialty stores online before choosing larger bottles. The selection in brick and mortars is minuscule compared to the sum total of what's out there. I have a ton of perfume, and pick one every day based on mood. I don't put a lot, so basically it's just me smelling it. If he loves his perfume, get him a non-spray version so he needs to dab it on - it won't be so offensive to others.

NP but I’m curious where you are able to purchase samples? I’d love to do this!

[Anonymous]

FFS you are raising children. You should not have to crowdsource this matter.

[Anonymous]

Maybe buy him a fragrance you love? My DH is constantly getting compliments about how good he smells. People including men ask him what he’s wearing. Maybe it’ll suit your DH too? Armani Code. Just amazing on my DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My goodness, just tell him! You're not impugning his body, only what he puts on it. You can look for additional perfumes together. Maybe you can tell him he needs to rotate, or maybe the bottle has actually gone bad (rare, but it happens).

I love perfume, and buy tiny samples from specialty stores online before choosing larger bottles. The selection in brick and mortars is minuscule compared to the sum total of what's out there. I have a ton of perfume, and pick one every day based on mood. I don't put a lot, so basically it's just me smelling it. If he loves his perfume, get him a non-spray version so he needs to dab it on - it won't be so offensive to others.

NP but I’m curious where you are able to purchase samples? I’d love to do this!

My go to store is Surrender To Chance, but there are others: the test tubes are tiny and very affordable. They're just meant to acquaint you with the scent profile, so you can decide whether you like it or not. Sometimes individual perfume houses will offer their own samples (much larger than the teeny ones from sampling companies, and more expensive). I have one such box from my favorite perfumer, Serge Lutens.

[Anonymous]

One's personal scent should be a discovery, not an announcement.

If the whole house smells of it, he's putting on WAY too much. If I can smell someone's perfume after they've left a room, or in any circumstance other than a hug, it's too much. Lots of folks need to dial it back. It's easy to get acclimated to your own perfume and overdo it. You need to tell him bc he is for sure offending others who don't have the standing to tell him he smells like a Persian car salesman.

[Anonymous]

Why is a grown man with a wife and kids wearing cologne?

[Anonymous]

I didn't like a GF's perfume. I turned the process of solving the problem into a romantic outing. We went to a nice department store and tried a few perfumes. First you spray a little cardboard card. If you both like the way the card smells, spray the wrist. If that seems good, spray the neck. I made a big point of smelling her neck..Eventually we found a perfume we both liked a lot and she smelled amazing.

[Anonymous]

Perfume and cologne is so bad for you, full of phthalates and other stuff. I can't believe anyone still wears it.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9163252/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One's personal scent should be a discovery, not an announcement.

If the whole house smells of it, he's putting on WAY too much. If I can smell someone's perfume after they've left a room, or in any circumstance other than a hug, it's too much. Lots of folks need to dial it back. It's easy to get acclimated to your own perfume and overdo it. You need to tell him bc he is for sure offending others who don't have the standing to tell him he smells like a Persian car salesman.

There's a whole other thread on racism you can join after this.

[Anonymous]

Get a new one for Father's Day from your kids. Get rid of current bottle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't like a GF's perfume. I turned the process of solving the problem into a romantic outing. We went to a nice department store and tried a few perfumes. First you spray a little cardboard card. If you both like the way the card smells, spray the wrist. If that seems good, spray the neck. I made a big point of smelling her neck..Eventually we found a perfume we both liked a lot and she smelled amazing.

Wow. Thanks for letting us know how to try perfumes on! Way to mansplain on an anonymous forum!!!

[Anonymous]

This is your man. Tell him.

[Anonymous]

Creed or bust.