Former great beauties

[Anonymous]

I’m in a relationship with a woman who used to be very beautiful. Now that her looks have faded over the decades, she still carries herself with the same sexy confidence that highly attractive people often have. It is somehow very important to me that she was once beautiful, even though objectively she’s not better looking than some other women who were never beautiful. Do other people here put a big value on how hot their lovers used to be? Why should any of us care about someone’s former appearance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in a relationship with a woman who used to be very beautiful. Now that her looks have faded over the decades, she still carries herself with the same sexy confidence that highly attractive people often have. It is somehow very important to me that she was once beautiful, even though objectively she’s not better looking than some other women who were never beautiful. Do other people here put a big value on how hot their lovers used to be? Why should any of us care about someone’s former appearance?

No that's the worse psychologically and for present day Attraction

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

So you're shallow. At least you can admit it.

I find it creepy that you place importance on the fact that she USED to be attractive.

[Anonymous]

OP here: I plugged my whole OP into google and learned that apparently how I feel about her former beauty is “incredibly common.”

Hmm

[Anonymous]

People who are "great beauties" don't lose it as they age. It has to do with their face/bone structure and symmetry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who are "great beauties" don't lose it as they age. It has to do with their face/bone structure and symmetry.

OK, let’s just say she was smoking hot.

[Anonymous]

I find the OP incredibly odd. I can see a man who has known his partner for decades and can remember back fondly to their earlier life together, in part how beautiful she was. Much like how we all can think back to how young/beautiful/in shape whatever we were back in the day.

But, for a man who wasn't even with the person back when they were beautiful seems really nonsensical.

[Anonymous]

Most men look terrible as they age. Go to any HS reunion starting at 20 years and they look years or decades older than the ladies. So I just find this funny b/c OP is likely a dog- woof.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: I plugged my whole OP into google and learned that apparently how I feel about her former beauty is “incredibly common.”

Hmm

Shit stirring troll stirs shit. More news at 11.

[Anonymous]

You don't love her.

My grandmother was a very beautiful woman and dated my grandfather starting at age 16. My grandfather said she was more beautiful at 80 than ever in their lives. That's love. FWIW, I did some print modeling. My grandfather once told me my grandmother was the most beautiful woman in the world (and said- that includes you). It was not mean, it was a sweet moment. He just loved her so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who are "great beauties" don't lose it as they age. It has to do with their face/bone structure and symmetry.

This seems more likely of an explanation. If she was once a great beauty, the kind that has the face/bone structure and symmetry, she is probably still a beautiful older woman.

[Anonymous]

I think this is key:
she still carries herself with the same sexy confidence

A woman who feels confident and sexy does glow in a way that women with lower self-confidence do not. I've known people that I didn't actually think were that great looking - just not my type - but their confidence shines. OP is attracted to that as much as the physical look.

Or his hormones want good-looking babies, even if his brain doesn't want or plan to have kids.

[Anonymous]

I think this is key:
she still carries herself with the same sexy confidence

I agree this important. OP do you think she doesn’t deserve to have this confidence anymore?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: I plugged my whole OP into google and learned that apparently how I feel about her former beauty is “incredibly common.”

Hmm

You and Google are living in an earlier insecure time when you couldn’t get the beautiful woman. Now you are dating the woman who wouldn’t date you decades ago. See Jeff Bezos.