Friend is frantic about son going to Alabama
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Anonymous
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I have known my friend since our sons attended K4 together and our families have been close ever since. He is almost like a second son to me as well.
- This past college admissions season went well for him and he got into a desirable T30, but ultimately he also had applied to Alabama and was accepted with an exceptionally generous scholarship. He opted to accept and will be going to Bama. His mom/ my friend was very upset as she wanted him to go to the T30. They are full pay and would not be burdened by the tuition expenses so the scholarship did not mean anything to her. - She has only been getting more nervous as an orientation date approaches and is more worried for her son. He is a kind laid back kid, very smart, sporty at country club sports, but quite sheltered. My son has told me he is planning to rush a social fraternity. Apparently, a sophomore girl he met through some online group is already DMing him on Instagram. My son thinks that the family’s wealth which is apparent on his social media is playing a role. I like this kid and am worried for how this nice young man will adjust to a party school. His mom is not aware of the fraternity plans or the girl. - Should I share with her what my son told me or just let things run their course? This is a great kid and I don’t want anything bad to happen to him. |
Anonymous
| I rate this a 1/10. Would not read again. |
Anonymous
| You’re generous with a 1/10. |
Anonymous
| You need to step back and let this kid live his own life and manage his own relationships with his friends and parents. |
Anonymous
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1) Every school is a party school.
2) If the parents let him apply, and gave him some autonomy over where to go to college, they need to accept his decision. 3) ROLL TIDE! |
Anonymous
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Stay out of it. There are worse problems in life. And what are they going to do about it?
Tell your son to tell the kid to start drinking so that he can build up his tolerance for rush. |
Anonymous
| This really isn’t your business |
Anonymous
| Well, TBH, I'd too if my kid wants to go to Alabama. |
Anonymous
| “Worse problems?” Hardly. Tell your son his friend’s “wealth” has nothing to do with it. The money and family wealth at Alabama is shocking. He’ll have an amazing time and have a great outcome. Roll Tide!!! |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
+2 |
Anonymous
| I’d be upset too, frankly. He’d be paying his travel costs and room/board. What a waste. |
Anonymous
| And here I am, wishing that my DC would even consider going to a southern university. OP, I think you need to let go. There are so many risks kids experience in college, no matter whether they are in Alabama or Boston. This kid will come out of undergrad with a phenomenal network and a great lived experience. Let it goooooooo, let it goooo. |
Anonymous
| MYOB. He’s an 18 year old texting with a 20 year old college student? Big deal! What is there to “report” to his mom? Let this kid be! He hasn’t even set foot on campus yet and you want to interfere for no legitimate reason. I actually hope this is a troll post! |
Anonymous
| Weird post. Kid's profile is a typical Alabama frat bro. If he has any sort of moral compass, he'll be fine. Tell her focus on supporting his interests, semester abroad, and summer jobs back home. |