I know IATA

[Anonymous]

It’s Mother’s Day and I didn’t plan anything for anyone today, including myself. We’re just lying around doing nothing. We’re go out to grab food at some point but nothing fancy/no reservations.

I texted pleasantly with my MIL. I tried to call my mom a couple times this weekend but didn’t get through. She returned my call this morning, barely spoke to me, and then hung up on me.

I didn’t invite her for the weekend. She lives about five hours away.

My mom takes a lot of energy and work. I’m tired. I just want to lie around and do nothing. My kids (teens) are lying around, doing nothing. If she lived closer and we could just do lunch, that would be great. I wasn’t in the right place for a four day visit.

And I can say this until I’m blue in the face but the fact remains that IATA.

[Anonymous]

Wah wah wah, stop. You did nothing wrong, and I think you know that, you just want to whine and have everyone reassure you. You’re fine, just stop.

[Anonymous]

Hm? You like flagellating yourself for nothing?

OK then.

[Anonymous]

You shouldn’t have to plan your Mother’s Day. Don’t beat yourself up. We are grilling at home, nothing fancy.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Yes, I know this intellectually. But this has been the story of my life. It’s been a challenge to reframe. I’m working on it.

Also there is a chance that she’ll go no contact with me because of this. She’s threatened it in the past. She’s not the easiest parent.

[Anonymous]

You throw your own Mother's Day party? Weird. That's on your kids, not you. YATA for not making your own mom feel special today. Call her back and apologize and tell her how wonderful she is and how much she means to you. Surely you can do that much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You throw your own Mother's Day party? Weird. That's on your kids, not you. YATA for not making your own mom feel special today. Call her back and apologize and tell her how wonderful she is and how much she means to you. Surely you can do that much?

OP here. I arrange everything when my mom comes. But I’m not arranging anything for myself.

I tried to call her multiple times. I left a nice voicemail. She’s not speaking to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, I know this intellectually. But this has been the story of my life. It’s been a challenge to reframe. I’m working on it.

Also there is a chance that she’ll go no contact with me because of this. She’s threatened it in the past. She’s not the easiest parent.

And that would be... a good development. Right?

I'm not quite sure what you're complaining about here. Your day or hers? I don't get it. From my perspective, you did all the right things. Low-key is best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, I know this intellectually. But this has been the story of my life. It’s been a challenge to reframe. I’m working on it.

Also there is a chance that she’ll go no contact with me because of this. She’s threatened it in the past. She’s not the easiest parent.

And that would be... a good development. Right?

I'm not quite sure what you're complaining about here. Your day or hers? I don't get it. From my perspective, you did all the right things. Low-key is best.

You are a really messed up human being, exactly the kind of person who should not be giving anyone advice.

[Anonymous]

Enjoy your restful day OP. You called mom and MIL. That’s fine. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, I know this intellectually. But this has been the story of my life. It’s been a challenge to reframe. I’m working on it.

Also there is a chance that she’ll go no contact with me because of this. She’s threatened it in the past. She’s not the easiest parent.

OK? Don’t threaten me with a good time. No contact from a miserable old bat? Sounds good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, I know this intellectually. But this has been the story of my life. It’s been a challenge to reframe. I’m working on it.

Also there is a chance that she’ll go no contact with me because of this. She’s threatened it in the past. She’s not the easiest parent.

And that would be... a good development. Right?

I'm not quite sure what you're complaining about here. Your day or hers? I don't get it. From my perspective, you did all the right things. Low-key is best.

You are a really messed up human being, exactly the kind of person who should not be giving anyone advice.

Is this OP, who apparently created a thread just to fight, or is this another disturbed individual?

[Anonymous]

Why are so many of you so worked up over Mother's Day? Who gives a shit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are so many of you so worked up over Mother's Day? Who gives a shit?

Actually compared to previous years, it's been a very calm and complacent year. Usually there are multiple threads of mothers who felt wronged by their husbands. This year, none. One asked what was reasonable to expect from grown kids, the other was a happy thread, and this one is just plain bizarre.

The others about Mother's Day were created well before the actual day, and I believe were resolved days ago.

[Anonymous]

Why are you an a-hole. You said all you want to do is lay around and do nothing, and it sounds like that is what's happening. Sounds glorious to me.