Throw the party without the birthday girl?
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Anonymous
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My 5-year-old’s birthday party is supposed to be in the morning (so, at this point, just a few hours). She’s been having a hard time sleeping tonight and I just realized she has a fever.
She obviously can’t go if she’s sick. It’s at a place where the kids are doing a cute structured activity and we really don’t have a time we can reschedule for months (if the venue would even allow that). Is it weird to email/text all the families coming and just let them know that my kid won’t be there, but the party is still on? My spouse or I could go to greet folks and bring snacks/cupcakes. I don’t want stuff to go to waste and I don’t want to mess up so many people’s plans. How would you handle this? |
Anonymous
| If you are going ahead with it, I would not tell them in advance she is not going to be there. Many will probably think you are hoping they won't come. such late notice and the odds are the venue is not going to refund your money because you've taken this spot that they can book, go ahead and have people come. |
Anonymous
| Just give your daughter Tylenol and bring her. |
Anonymous
A fever like 99.2 or 102. If it's down by party time (without meds) bring otherwise  . So sorry for DD. I would try to find another special experience for another day to celebrate. Might as well let the other kids enjoy since they will not refund now. Maybe FaceTime DD in so kids can talk to her.
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Anonymous
| IMO don’t cancel it, but it’s no longer a birthday party. Send a message “unfortunately Larla is sick, but Creative Creatures is ready to host our guests at the scheduled time for fun and making cereal bowls” or whatever it is. No cupcakes. |
Anonymous
We went to a party like this in preschool. The parents had already paid to rent out the entire place and they just dropped off cupcakes. It was a bummer but all the kids had fun. I would word it like "Katie is sick, she won't be at the party's but since we already paid and reserved the venue, we would love for guests to still attend and enjoy." I would expect that people will not bring gifts, but you could swing by afterwards to pick some up just in case people do bring them. |
Anonymous
+1 Please don’t take your sick child. That’s selfish. |
Anonymous
| I would call and see if it can be done on a weekday evening instead. |
Anonymous
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I wouldn’t text people in advance bc it locks you in (maybe she’ll seem well enough right before party…). If she can’t make it, just go ahead and host it and explain situation when guests arrive. No one will feel duped - they will understand and have fun. At least your daughter will get gifts to cheer her up!
So sorry, what a bummer. |
Anonymous
| Call and see if they could rebook you for a weekday if weekends are tight. My kid has been invited to 3 birthday parties this year that have been rescheduled due to the birthday child being sick. No big deal, these things happen |
Anonymous
| Would you still attend? Because you could be coming down with too. So let the guests know your family will not be in attendance did to family illness. |
Anonymous
| I’m sorry for your daughter. But I want to really applaud you, OP, for doing the right thing and not exposing the other kids. I hope your DD is better soon and can maybe have a smaller celebration at home. |
Anonymous
This is a terrible idea. Poor kid is home sick and she gets to watch her friends having fun without her? |
Anonymous
Agree, FaceTime is dumb. Leave the poor sick kid alone and don't rub it in her face. |
Anonymous
| If you really can't reschedule. I think you eat the cost and cancel. WTF |