Getting over a great person

[Anonymous]

Recently I ended a LTR with someone who is truly a great person and I cared for and loved deeply. But our lifestyles just didn’t match up; I’m older with kids, they’re younger without kids. They wanted to be like other couples their age and spend a lot of time together, go out most nights, etc while I wanted more space and a more balanced life. Both of us realized we weren’t really getting our needs met and it wasn’t the relationship we each wanted, despite loving each other.

How do you get over this? It’s been fairly easy for me to move on when the other person did something wrong, or when we lost feelings. This is so much harder and more painful, despite knowing it’s the best for both of us.

[Anonymous]

Get under someone hotter

[Anonymous]

You dodged a bullet because if they really loved you they would be fine with not going out most nights.

[Anonymous]

The hard truth is this person deserves a life where they get to have experiences you've already gone through - whether it's spending nights out, carefree and having fun, and then at some point, settling down and having kids of their own.

You've had your time. They need to have theirs. It is the right thing to let them go and allow them to do that.

I once went through something similar. The person went on (rather quickly) to meet someone else who they married and had a family with.

[Anonymous]

Realize you're a weirdo for dating someone in their 20s

[Anonymous]

I think you need to realize that there are lots and lots of wonderful people in this world, but just because they are great doesn’t mean they are the right fit for you. And that the longer you spend with a great person who isn’t the right fit the longer you are denying both of you the opportunity to actually meet the person who is the right fit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to realize that there are lots and lots of wonderful people in this world, but just because they are great doesn’t mean they are the right fit for you. And that the longer you spend with a great person who isn’t the right fit the longer you are denying both of you the opportunity to actually meet the person who is the right fit.

Well said. Get on with searching for a great person who is also a great fit for you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Realize you're a weirdo for dating someone in their 20s

+1000

Date someone your own age, OP.

[Anonymous]

Same sex couple?

[Anonymous]

Stop younger men w no kids

[Anonymous]

Dating ^

[Anonymous]

Calling a person "they" is so strange. Improper English grammar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You dodged a bullet because if they really loved you they would be fine with not going out most nights.

This, and she probably wanted kids. Sounds like you are already have them. Disaster in the making.

[Anonymous]

I have never met such a wonderful person. I had to use my imagination to make partners nicer.
Consider yourself lucky and concentrate on your kids. It's their time to meet someone wonderful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Calling a person "they" is so strange. Improper English grammar.

If that’s what the person’s preferred pronouns are, what do you care? Has zero impact on you.