Uhh.. I just want to be left alone.

[Anonymous]

My husband is driving me freaking crazy!!! We work from home. He is supposed to go into the office once a week and is missing today because of a knee injury. I told him I liked having the house to myself, and he made the joke - "yeah cause I bother you all day". But he actually does. I feel like the older I get, the more annoyed by him I become. I really do want to be alone. Like it's my favorite thing to do now. I need more alone time, but I prefer to be home when I'm alone. How do I get him and the kids out of the house more??? I feel like everything I say to him, he gets overly sensitive about.

[Anonymous]

Divorce? People change. Honestly sounds like you have outgrown this relationship.

[Anonymous]

Do you have a home office and the door closes?

[Anonymous]

This is so funny because I’m having a “off” week too, because my DH is home.

He’s completely throwing off my routine. It’s hard when your home is also your office. No advice, just commiseration!

[Anonymous]

My husband and I also both work from home but we have separate offices on separate floors so I very rarely go up to his and while he sometimes comes down to mine, if I have my AirPods in it means I’m on a call or don’t want to be disturbed (my office has French doors with glass).

I LOVE it when he goes into the office, which is happening less frequently these days for some reason. There is something to having the whole house to yourself, even if you’re working.

Unless he starts staying from home all the time now, at least you have your one day a week to look forward to in the future. And you should set boundaries about when you want to be disturbed (the AirPods work great - I listen to classical music, which drowns out the other sounds around the house and they’re a signal to leave me alone). If you don’t like listening to music while you work, then just tell him that when your office door is closed you are not available.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is driving me freaking crazy!!! We work from home. He is supposed to go into the office once a week and is missing today because of a knee injury. I told him I liked having the house to myself, and he made the joke - "yeah cause I bother you all day". But he actually does. I feel like the older I get, the more annoyed by him I become. I really do want to be alone. Like it's my favorite thing to do now. I need more alone time, but I prefer to be home when I'm alone. How do I get him and the kids out of the house more??? I feel like everything I say to him, he gets overly sensitive about.

Make a fair deal so one day of the week, you work from a cafe or library and one day he would. This way both of you get house to yourself for a day.

[Anonymous]

Men can also benefit from some solitude of having home to themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is driving me freaking crazy!!! We work from home. He is supposed to go into the office once a week and is missing today because of a knee injury. I told him I liked having the house to myself, and he made the joke - "yeah cause I bother you all day". But he actually does. I feel like the older I get, the more annoyed by him I become. I really do want to be alone. Like it's my favorite thing to do now. I need more alone time, but I prefer to be home when I'm alone. How do I get him and the kids out of the house more??? I feel like everything I say to him, he gets overly sensitive about.

Make a fair deal so one day of the week, you work from a cafe or library and one day he would. This way both of you get house to yourself for a day.

Probably full day would be too much but half day would easy.

[Anonymous]

I work from home and I enjoy having DW home, with our busy schedules and crazy weekends with the kids it's rare to have moments to ourselves during the day.

Maybe try communicating what you need?

[Anonymous]

Go to your office, park, coffee shop, to work. What a whiny woman.

[Anonymous]

Cry me a river. We both WOH, with kids and spouse, I am NEVER ALONE.

Go to a coffee shop to get away from DH, or just tell him you have a meeting. I am assuming you aren’t content being alone in a room, you want free rein of the house with no one there. Every parent craves that, few get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cry me a river. We both WOH, with kids and spouse, I am NEVER ALONE.

Go to a coffee shop to get away from DH, or just tell him you have a meeting. I am assuming you aren’t content being alone in a room, you want free rein of the house with no one there. Every parent craves that, few get it.

NP. Accuses someone else of whining; proceeds to whine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is driving me freaking crazy!!! We work from home. He is supposed to go into the office once a week and is missing today because of a knee injury. I told him I liked having the house to myself, and he made the joke - "yeah cause I bother you all day". But he actually does. I feel like the older I get, the more annoyed by him I become. I really do want to be alone. Like it's my favorite thing to do now. I need more alone time, but I prefer to be home when I'm alone. How do I get him and the kids out of the house more??? I feel like everything I say to him, he gets overly sensitive about.

FWIW this is a totally normal feeling. No solutions, just wanted you to know you are normal.

[Anonymous]

Are you in your 40s? Anecdotally among my friends there seems to be a surge of annoyance at our husbands at this stage of life. Does yours chew loudly? Aaahgh!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Look into DayUse hotels. You can sneak away for peace. Sure it costs a little $$ but worth your sanity.