Would you suspend visits? Sick after visiting grandma?

[Anonymous]

Another day where DC is home sick after spending the evening with my mom.

This happens 9/10 times. DC will spend the afternoon/evening with my mom (parents) and will come home before bedtime, will complain of stomachaches before bed, and then will throw up either before bed, in the middle of the night, or like today, in the morning.

I’ve discussed this with my mom and we just can not pinpoint what could be causing this. She doesn’t feed him anything unusual, though I wonder if it’s “more” than usual? I’ve discussed with her feeding him less, and she says she now does, but he continues to come home with stomach aches that end up being pukes.

Is he just overwhelmed? What could this be? And, would you suspend visits for a while? I hate to do that, but this can’t keep happening. It’s been ongoing for about two years at this point.

[Anonymous]

I would visit the pediatrician for a constipation check. Heartburn can be related to constipation. You may need to give a special diet for a few days before these visits to make sure DC is not backed up.

If you are worried about overstimulation, then vomiting could be related to a type of migraine.

[Anonymous]

Who else is at the house? Any males in the home your DC is visiting?

[Anonymous]

WTF. This is bizarre and yes I absolutely would suspend visits. It could be anything from stuff him with sweets, eating something with fake sugar (is one of them diabetic or buys diet type foods?), something environmental (mouse poison, lead, moth balls, who knows), or far less likely but could be something intentionally nefarious going on.

But yes, I would absolutely suspend visits. She can visit at your house or meet up with you at museums and such.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would visit the pediatrician for a constipation check. Heartburn can be related to constipation. You may need to give a special diet for a few days before these visits to make sure DC is not backed up.

If you are worried about overstimulation, then vomiting could be related to a type of migraine.

The issue is definitely not constipation. His BMs aren’t affected whatsoever. He just comes home, settles down, and then complains of feeling sick. Then, inevitably, he throws up and is malaise and unwell for the better part of the rest of that day. He typically doesn’t throw up any more than that one time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who else is at the house? Any males in the home your DC is visiting?

No, and they typically don’t even go to a house. My mom picks him up from school and they do and do something: have a snack, do an activity (sometimes it’s visiting the library, sometimes she takes him to a park, etc.), then they have dinner before she brings him back.

I know what you’re implying but I don’t think it’s that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would visit the pediatrician for a constipation check. Heartburn can be related to constipation. You may need to give a special diet for a few days before these visits to make sure DC is not backed up.

If you are worried about overstimulation, then vomiting could be related to a type of migraine.

This wouldn’t be the cause of him throwing up the night he come homes 9/10 times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who else is at the house? Any males in the home your DC is visiting?

No, and they typically don’t even go to a house. My mom picks him up from school and they do and do something: have a snack, do an activity (sometimes it’s visiting the library, sometimes she takes him to a park, etc.), then they have dinner before she brings him back.

I know what you’re implying but I don’t think it’s that.

Ok, this makes things even more bizarre. No unsupervised visits. Something is going on.

[Anonymous]

This is crazy! I would attend with him and see what he normally does/eats.

My own grandma was like Typhoid Mary. Every single time I went, even in my 20s/30s, we got a stomach virus that ended with us vomiting and diarrhea. I'm positive she had something that just lived in her body and made everyone else sick. She lived 15 hours away from us and we'd only visit a couple times a year, but we always stayed with her because she had 3 guest bedrooms for us upstairs. And we liked helping her out with her house while we stayed there. She had a lot of issues with Gerd and diarrhea, so I think it affected her a little. As an adult I'd come in and scrub the house from top to bottom and disinfecting it when we arrived. I ended up in the hospital twice while visiting.

[Anonymous]

Or, they got it from school and it’s just a coincidence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who else is at the house? Any males in the home your DC is visiting?

No, and they typically don’t even go to a house. My mom picks him up from school and they do and do something: have a snack, do an activity (sometimes it’s visiting the library, sometimes she takes him to a park, etc.), then they have dinner before she brings him back.

I know what you’re implying but I don’t think it’s that.

Ok, this makes things even more bizarre. No unsupervised visits. Something is going on.

Right? I can’t imagine what it could be. When I ask him what he’s eaten, it’s completely typical stuff. I’m wondering if it has less to do with food and more to do with him being overwhelmed/overstimulated somehow, and not being able to articulate that to me properly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is crazy! I would attend with him and see what he normally does/eats.

My own grandma was like Typhoid Mary. Every single time I went, even in my 20s/30s, we got a stomach virus that ended with us vomiting and diarrhea. I'm positive she had something that just lived in her body and made everyone else sick. She lived 15 hours away from us and we'd only visit a couple times a year, but we always stayed with her because she had 3 guest bedrooms for us upstairs. And we liked helping her out with her house while we stayed there. She had a lot of issues with Gerd and diarrhea, so I think it affected her a little. As an adult I'd come in and scrub the house from top to bottom and disinfecting it when we arrived. I ended up in the hospital twice while visiting.

This would be funny if it didn’t seem like a real possibility for me, too, lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or, they got it from school and it’s just a coincidence.

But every single time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or, they got it from school and it’s just a coincidence.

For TWO years?!?

Is it really every time, OP?

[Anonymous]

Agree with advice to tag along on the next outing and just observe. Do not direct or intervene. See if DS is sick after that outing. If not, ask him if there was anything different from previous outings.

Ask DS’s doc.