Boys are insane!
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Anonymous
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This is mostly a vent, but WTF is up with boys these days. We had a handful of our DS's friends over for his birthday and took them to an outing in public and they're borderline feral đ. So much loud, running everywhere, talking over each other. Additionally, half of them have speech issues, struggle with reading (the activity involved minimal reading), or can't focus for more than minute at a time.
We've been doing similar things for his big sister, but the way the group of kids behave (even at the same age) is sooooooo different. It just shocks me to observe and it doesn't seem like boys will ever catch to girls. It's not like I'm a stranger to boys either. For one, I'm a man but I don't recall my friends ever being this wild. Maybe we had a lot more unstructured free pay so maybe it's because we weren't as contained. I also coach a few different youth sports, but those are environments where boys are expected to be loud and active. I guess maby of them just don't know how turn it off these days |
Anonymous
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Unpopular opinion:
Itâs normal and it has no indication that they wonât ever âcatch up to girlsâ. I actually love it and make sure activities lend to being âferalâ. Take them to a creek, or to climb trees, or have them play capture the flag or back yard football, I sent my kids to all boys school for elementary so they could be a boy and run, jump, burn energy and learn in many ways besides sitting and sitting and sitting, I think it would benefit a lot of girls too. |
Anonymous
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Maybe if they had more than 15 minutes a day for recess, they wouldnât be so wild.
-a teacher who doesnât control how much time is allowed for recess |
Anonymous
| Grow up OP |
Anonymous
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If you take a bunch of boys on a birthday outing, theyâre going to go a little crazy. It is what it is.
Also - I have a 10 year old boy. I could invite 9 of his friends to a party and it would be fine. But if 1 maybe 2 particular friends joined, the whole thing would go off the rails. They arenât bad kids, especially 1 on 1 or in small groups. But in big groups they turn on the clown performance, and the other kids either feel pressured to keep up with him, or become disregulated and upset if heâs doing something he shouldnât, or they start laughing and getting silly. Now all of a sudden you have a party where 2 of the kids are upset and want to go home, 1 kid is noticing that 2 kids are upset and is now uneasy himself, 1 kid is taking it too far and about to get into a shoving match with another kid, a few normally good kids are starting to like, throw popcorn or smear food because another kid egged them on ⌠I could go on. |
Anonymous
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Yeah they are feral. You dont mention an age but im guessing 9 to 11? So loud. And so competitive and obnoxious.
But I haven't experienced the inability to read. My son and his friends are quite smart. They are nerdy. They love books and science. My 11 year old has just started showing interest in playing with girls because i think even he is annoyed by groups of boys. He had a play date with a girl recently and was so happy with the games they played and fun they had. Ive basically stopped inviting boys over because they just fight or annoy each other. |
Anonymous
How many boys did you invite? Maybe you need to be more selective next time. I would be worried if kids from my son's school could not read on grade level. |
Anonymous
| Itâs not the kids itâs the parenting |
Anonymous
| I did not experience this with my boys and their friends. |
Anonymous
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My grown-up late Gen-X cousin complained to her mom in front of me that her brother had cooler birthday parties when they were growing up in the early 80s and 90s. Her mom said it was because the boys were too rough and naughty to have home parties.
My boy cousin was a skateboarder and always had minor injuries. He broke both his wrists falling off the activity gym part of our swingset after Easter dinner. Sucks to be well-behaved but "no broken bones" also a win, I guess... |
Anonymous
| This is unacceptable if they're older than second grade. |
Anonymous
I have two boys, currently 8 and 11. This is very accurate. |
Anonymous
| I have two boys. As a PP noted, it just takes one or two kids to change the dynamic and make the group act more wild. My oldest was at a bday party last weekend where two of the kids have ADHD and are known for being wild. Apparently it was chaos. One of the wild kids was the bday boy, so the parents were kind of expecting it though they did seem frazzled at pickup time. I have experienced this with the same kids when they have come to my sonâs parties. This past weekend my oldest went to a party with a different group of kids. I was there for the final 30 minutes. They were somewhat boisterous, but not wild. My own kid is not a ringleader of wild behavior but will feed off the energy of the group if thatâs where itâs heading. Similarly he will be calmer if thatâs the group dynamic. I think this is just how it is until they all mature a little more. And the parents of the kids who are wild in every situation probably need to be more hands on and proactive than many of them are. |
Anonymous
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Your son included, OP?
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Anonymous
| This is just how boys get in a party environment. In smaller groups or different environment itâs not so bad. |