Birthday party dressing drama
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Anonymous
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DD wore a $10-$15 Disney princess dress to attend a girl's birthday party hosted at a ballet studio. She and I both thought that it was fine because it was hosted at a ballet studio. Ballet studio screamed to me princess or girl theme party. I just find out months from DD that the birthday girl was mad at DD wearing princess dress that day because it was her birthday party. She told DD at school the next day or so at school. There were other girls wearing ballet dresses thst day, and I had no ideas it was an issue until months after. The birthday girl wore an expensive sparkle dress that day. Now I see why they do not talk or interact anymore after that birthday party months ago. Oh man, they are 6/7 years old. DD and other girls used to wear Disney princess dresses at daycare and attended birthday party. Maybe it is not appropriate anymore at elementary school?
If I knew thst months ago, I may have done or said something. I do not plan to do or say anything, and I think it is kind of pita that it was an issue. I just do not like this kind of girl drama and girl friendship is tough. Is there any ES aged girl friendship and girl drama related website or book that I can learn? I am a foreigner, so I am clueless on many things. |
Anonymous
| It's fine, and it was fine for your daughter to wear a princess dress to the party. The other girl sounds like a brat. She will get over it, they're little and friends change quickly. |
Anonymous
| Yeah, ignore all of this. |
Anonymous
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The other girl is being mean. Your daughter had every right to wear whatever the heck she wanted to attend a child's party. This isn't a debutante's presentation at court, OP! Re-affirm your child's right to distance herself from the other girl.
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Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
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The other girl can get over it, but now you know that it’s better to make sure to not overshadow the birthday girl and to find out the dress code ahead of time. Princess dresses are kind of a separate category. Ballet outfit to a ballet studio is more in line.
Sorry, OP. These things can be nuanced and tough! |
Anonymous
This is ridiculous. Unless she was told directly what her daughter should wear, she should not have to guess. Good god, it wasn’t a wedding |
Anonymous
| A party at a ballet studio sounds boring. My daughter has been in ballet for 15 years and I never considered using a studio for a party. Her school friends had no interest in ballet. |
Anonymous
Super helpful and on topic! |
Anonymous
Right - not sure how this is even a post. 
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Anonymous
| I’m confused - your DD’s princess dress was too fancy or not fancy enough? |
Anonymous
+1 don't beat your self up or burden your daughter. The other girl would have found something else to be mean and exclusionary about if not this. |
Anonymous
For some, it can be fun— my daughter (3) had one and all the girls loved wearing disney dresses or other frilly/tutu dresses. Just a quick little dance lesson and then the usual pizza and cupcakes. OP, this is a super weird thing for the other girl to be worried about. Kids are weird. It’s not a wedding, I cannot imagine a bday party having a dress code! |
Anonymous
| For a six year old to be like that, something is wrong in the family. They’re acting out something they’ve seen. Steer clear. |
Anonymous
| The birthday girl is a brat. This isn’t your fault. |