Wouid this upset you

[Anonymous]

Taking a little survey. So my adult dc and I go to the same dentist, we’ve been going there for over twenty years. I pay my dc’s dental bills because it’s just something I want to do for him. I’ve had a lot of work done over the past several years and have more coming up. It’s expensive. So we both go every 3-months for routine cleaning. At dc’s last appointment, the hygienest texted me, and said is it ok if I do the panoramic xray this time, it’s been several years. I said no, maybe in a few years but right now we can’t do it. She says ok. Now he just had his routine appointment and she did the panoramic xray. Apparently, the doctor sees a shortened tooth root that he attributes to his braces and he had those about 25 years ago. They did tell me about the shortened tooth root about 5 or 6 years ago. But at that time it didn’t require any treatment. They were just going to keep an eye on it. Now, the doctor is going to send this to his “friend” whom I presume is some type of specialist, and he’s going to look at the xray. Currently that tooth isn’t bothering dc at all. I’m hoping upon hope that it won’t need any treatment in the foreseeable future. But in any event, my question is; Wouid that upset you that I just told thr hygienist no, not for several years and yet three months later she did it. I’m livid, yet my husband says don’t bother saying anything, it’s too late, it’s already done.
What do you all think?

[Anonymous]

I’m confused on why you’re making medical decisions for your adult child.

[Anonymous]

The hygienist forgot you said no and your kid authorized the work. Forget about that.

I question what a shortened tooth root is and why braces make that a problem.

In general, if you trust the provider, don't delay dental work.

[Anonymous]

I think it's incredibly bizarre that you're paying for your adult child's dentistry when he's at least...35? 40? years old.

If the xray cost is bothering you that much, ask your DC to reimburse you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The hygienist forgot you said no and your kid authorized the work. Forget about that.

I question what a shortened tooth root is and why braces make that a problem.

In general, if you trust the provider, don't delay dental work.

+1

They don’t even need permission from you. Your “DC” is an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m confused on why you’re making medical decisions for your adult child.

No reason to be confused about that. Adult child has a disability, and I pay his dental expenses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m confused on why you’re making medical decisions for your adult child
No reason to be confused, adult child has a disability, that’s why. And as I said I just told texted the hygienist three months ago when she inquired about it with me-NO. I can’t do it right now. They charge $375 for those panoramic X-rays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The hygienist forgot you said no and your kid authorized the work. Forget about that.

I question what a shortened tooth root is and why braces make that a problem.

In general, if you trust the provider, don't delay dental work.

+1

They don’t even need permission from you. Your “DC” is an adult.

They are aware that Adult child has a disability and that I pay the bills there and that I make many of the decisions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m confused on why you’re making medical decisions for your adult child.

No reason to be confused about that. Adult child has a disability, and I pay his dental expenses.

That’s kind of a key part that you left out. It’s one thing to pay for an adult child expenses, it’s another to make a medical decision on their behalf.
Obviously, you must have medical power of attorney, which changes the story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's incredibly bizarre that you're paying for your adult child's dentistry when he's at least...35? 40? years old.

If the xray cost is bothering you that much, ask your DC to reimburse you.

I find it incredibly bizarre that you’re commenting on that part of this because that wasn’t my question. My adult child has a disability, that’s why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The hygienist forgot you said no and your kid authorized the work. Forget about that.

I question what a shortened tooth root is and why braces make that a problem.

In general, if you trust the provider, don't delay dental work.

I don’t think she forgot, I was very very adamant about saying no last time.
As best i understand it, tooth roots can become shorter during orthodontic treatment and that is very common. Sometimes it causes problems and sometimes it doesn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The hygienist forgot you said no and your kid authorized the work. Forget about that.

I question what a shortened tooth root is and why braces make that a problem.

In general, if you trust the provider, don't delay dental work.

+1

They don’t even need permission from you. Your “DC” is an adult.

They are aware that Adult child has a disability and that I pay the bills there and that I make many of the decisions.

Unless there is something in place like an activated POA or active guardianship, your child is still the one who says yes/no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The hygienist forgot you said no and your kid authorized the work. Forget about that.

I question what a shortened tooth root is and why braces make that a problem.

In general, if you trust the provider, don't delay dental work.

I don’t think she forgot, I was very very adamant about saying no last time.
As best i understand it, tooth roots can become shorter during orthodontic treatment and that is very common. Sometimes it causes problems and sometimes it doesn’t.

Can you clarify whether your AC makes his own medical decisions or whether you have a guardianship or other arrangements that entitles you to be the exclusive decision maker. If he retains decision-making power, then I don’t think that dental practice did anything wrong. If you have full decision-making power then yes it’s problematic. In that case, they should’ve called you and explained what they were saying and why they wanted the panoramic x-ray.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The hygienist forgot you said no and your kid authorized the work. Forget about that.

I question what a shortened tooth root is and why braces make that a problem.

In general, if you trust the provider, don't delay dental work.

+1

They don’t even need permission from you. Your “DC” is an adult. As I said, Adult child has a disability. I pay his dentist bills. Regardless of why, or his disability, which they are aware of, and they know I just said a few months ago, NO to the panoramic. I was just telling them too the other day that we are inundated with medical bills as a result of medical expenses for my husband, my son was also rushed to the hospital in an ambulance over the summer and subsequently hospitalized, large deductible and so forth, we are helping him with those expenses, helping, not paying everything. Yet the hygienist did this anyway.

[Anonymous]

To answer your question. It might upset me for 5 minutes but then I’d get over it. She probably asked him, you weren’t there, he said yes.

I only go to the dentist every 6 months. Why are u going every 3 months?