When you say you’ll pray for someone, do you think you’re doing enough?

[Anonymous]

Honest question. We have a child who is in a life threatening health situation. My spouse’s family, who is local and always busy helping my spouse’s siblings and their kids, told us recently that they’d pray for us as we packed up to go to the hospital. Not, we will meet you there, we will cook for you, we will see you back home to help things get situated. Just prayers and social media posts.

I’m so angry and disgusted. We’ve asked for support so many times, and thought that a valid thing to ask since our child is just a little tiny human that needs a community, and because my spouse’s family drops everything for their other grand kids. How can you call yourself religious or Christian and do this? No, they don’t owe us anything. But really, if you can’t offer love in a life and death situation, what’s it all for? Help me understand. I don’t want your prayers.

[Anonymous]

What on earth?? Prayer is love. They are offering the very most in this situation. You really think you can turn around a "life threatening health situation" without prayer? Doing chores for you isn't going to heal your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What on earth?? Prayer is love. They are offering the very most in this situation. You really think you can turn around a "life threatening health situation" without prayer? Doing chores for you isn't going to heal your child.

People like you are the reason mass shootings in this country will never end.

[Anonymous]

Your husband needs to tell them what you need. They are not mind readers. If you need babysitting for other kids, ask. If you need meals say hey would are overwhelmed could you please help with some meals?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What on earth?? Prayer is love. They are offering the very most in this situation. You really think you can turn around a "life threatening health situation" without prayer? Doing chores for you isn't going to heal your child.

Prayers are't going to heal their child either. They could offer concrete assistance, too - not to heal the child, but to be of assistance in their time of need.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on the life-threatening situation, OP. My oldest went into anaphylactic shock several times. There was nothing anyone could have done to make it better, because these are ultra-emergency, short-term situations - you either recover or you don't. There is no meal train opportunity.

I was in a life-threatening medical situation myself, that lasted several days and resolved itself with surgery. During the actual crisis, my 11 year old son called 911 and then took his little sister to the neighbor's. My husband came home from work and handled everything else. My parents flew in for my recovery two weeks later.


If you need specific help, TELL THEM WHAT YOU NEED.

Best wishes for your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honest question. We have a child who is in a life threatening health situation. My spouse’s family, who is local and always busy helping my spouse’s siblings and their kids, told us recently that they’d pray for us as we packed up to go to the hospital. Not, we will meet you there, we will cook for you, we will see you back home to help things get situated. Just prayers and social media posts.

I’m so angry and disgusted. We’ve asked for support so many times, and thought that a valid thing to ask since our child is just a little tiny human that needs a community, and because my spouse’s family drops everything for their other grand kids. How can you call yourself religious or Christian and do this? No, they don’t owe us anything. But really, if you can’t offer love in a life and death situation, what’s it all for? Help me understand. I don’t want your prayers.

Thoughts and Prayers mean shit absolute shit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honest question. We have a child who is in a life threatening health situation. My spouse’s family, who is local and always busy helping my spouse’s siblings and their kids, told us recently that they’d pray for us as we packed up to go to the hospital. Not, we will meet you there, we will cook for you, we will see you back home to help things get situated. Just prayers and social media posts.

I’m so angry and disgusted. We’ve asked for support so many times, and thought that a valid thing to ask since our child is just a little tiny human that needs a community, and because my spouse’s family drops everything for their other grand kids. How can you call yourself religious or Christian and do this? No, they don’t owe us anything. But really, if you can’t offer love in a life and death situation, what’s it all for? Help me understand. I don’t want your prayers.

Are you religious? Or of the same religion as your in-laws? If not, maybe that's the reason why they are only praying for you and not offering the concrete assistance that you need. Also, try being specific. Tell them exactly what you need from them.

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

No, it is not enough, per James 2:16

And one of you say unto them, Depart in peace, be ye warmed and filled; notwithstanding ye give them not those things which are needful to the body; what doth it profit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, it is not enough, per James 2:16

And one of you say unto them, Depart in peace, be ye warmed and filled; notwithstanding ye give them not those things which are needful to the body; what doth it profit?

Don't listen to the book of fake stories.

Consider this instead, "My heartbeat pings for you; may your cache remain unpurged."

[Anonymous]

It’s not a Christian thing to do and I am sorry you are going through this. The bottom line is — if you truly believe the Christian faith, it has to change the way that you treat other people and you should want to go out of your way to want to help people. Not as a way to save yourself, but as a reflection back of Christ’s love for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not a Christian thing to do and I am sorry you are going through this. The bottom line is — if you truly believe the Christian faith, it has to change the way that you treat other people and you should want to go out of your way to want to help people. Not as a way to save yourself, but as a reflection back of Christ’s love for us.

Meh. Christ's sacrifice was only for humans. Iron Man's sacrifice was to save the entire universe. His sacrifice was the one successful outcome out of 14,000,605 possibilities foreseen by Doctor Strange.

[Anonymous]

So your question is why are some religious people thoughtless? Because they are people.

[Anonymous]

Thoughts and Prayers are worthless.

Tell me you are a bible thumper praying for me or my family I 100% will tell you to F Off.

Look at our country right now Christian Nationalists largest group of Pedophiles/criminal/ Scammers and you think prayers work?