DD17 Drinking
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Anonymous
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DD ia 17, a senior, and has started drinking small amounts with friends, at sleepovers, parties, etc. I’m not happy about it but my husband says that it’s good practice for college, and that she’s almost 18(in may!), as an excuse to not give her consequences or step in.
How would you handle this? She’s 17, so what consequences would be appropriate, besides taking her phone away? |
Anonymous
| Seriously, what do you think you should do? |
Anonymous
| Why would you take her phone away? |
Anonymous
| I agree with your DH. |
Anonymous
| Not a big deal as long as she's not driving. |
Anonymous
It’s a very big deal. |
Anonymous
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Taking her phone away is dumb that does nothing it has nothing to do with drinking
Consequences only work if they fit the crime Is she being responsible ? Is this affecting other aspects of her life? She’s under age it’s illegal How do you know she’s drinking king dux age tell you? If she’s being honest with you that’s huge. I’d ground her from the car before a phone drinking and driving would be a concern |
Anonymous
| It’s against the law. If she’s not mature enough to follow rules she’s not mature enough to handle the responsibility of having a smartphone. She can have a flip phone. The earlier kids drink the more chance of developing alcohol problems. |
Anonymous
| Mine would no longer be allowed to sleepovers or parties. |
Anonymous
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This is how it would roll my house. Drinking is illegal. Her social life would go down to nothing. If she drives, that stops. Overnights at her friend’s house stops. She has lost your trust. Perhaps she needs to do some research on females who are impaired and the likelihood of bad decisions.
Obviously, your husband ‘s “good practice” approach wouldn’t work for me. |
Anonymous
| Dh is wrong, she doesn't need any practice. |
Anonymous
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Most parents are going to agree with your DH.
I’d end the sleepovers and focus on making sure there is no driving and that you’re seeing her at end of evenings to make sure she isn’t sloppy wasted. |
Anonymous
| For a girl in particular, the sleepovers and drinking are exposing her to higher risk of an unwanted sexual interaction. Just calling it out for you directly because some parents don’t seem to connect the dots. |
Anonymous
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It’s not practice for responsible drinking in college. It just means she’ll start with a higher tolerance and just increase her intake from there.
Good luck, OP. |