Whole class for birthday in this scenario?
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Anonymous
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So we recently moved to a new elementary school in our district. My son’s 8th birthday is coming up at a trampoline park. He wanted to invite his old friends (from his soccer team and a couple of the girls he was close to) his new basketball team friends from his current school and again a couple of extra friends he’s close to. FWIW he hasn’t hand a party in years so this is sort of a make up for the last 3 years kind of party.
Well, I don’t know the new class well, and a lot of kids aren’t in the class directory. The party is a week away and I’m looking at the class picture and seeing that we have now invited everyone but 5 kids. I feel terrible and would hate for people to feel excluded. At the same time it’s $30 per kid (we got a deal bc we were inviting so many kids for the first portion). I need to extend the invite to these kids right? I also need t figure out their parents contact info ? |
Anonymous
| Eh it would be the nice thing to do. How many are in the whole class? |
Anonymous
| 23 are in the whole class |
Anonymous
| OP here- about 17 of the kids aren’t boys, for reference- and I’d say about 12 of them are on the basketball teams |
Anonymous
| Ugh, are* |
Anonymous
| If it's a trampoline park ~ a lot of parents will decline.Trampolines are a greater than normal safety risk and, no, we don't care about the specifics. |
Anonymous
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Unkind to exclude a handful of kids like that, regardless of cost. You are the one who chose the $30/each venue.
Would have been OK to invite maybe 8-9 of 23. |
Anonymous
| pp again, yes you should invite the other 5. Because an invitation matters, it's a nice thing, even if the parents say no. |
Anonymous
| 5 is too few to not invite, especially for a kid who is new and still wanting to make friends. |
Anonymous
| Sounds good! We’ll extend the invite! Thanks for your perspectives! |
Anonymous
| How are you supposed to contact them? I feel like if people opt out of the directory then they have to accept or don't want their kids invited. |
Anonymous
+1 the generic rule we follow is less than half the class or whole class. In this scenario I would invite all. Agree there are always some conflicts and kids who can't attend. |
Anonymous
As someone whose kids aren't listed in the directory due to domestic violence this makes me glad our school community is kinder than you. |
Anonymous
| Can you contact the teacher and figure out how best to contact them through her/him? |
Anonymous
| and HOW is it you want people to contact you? How do they do that, pp? |