do you like your woman without make-up?

[Anonymous]

Dating a woman for about 3 months and she is 41. Good looking but always have heavy make-up on whenever you go out. Overnight and next morning her looks are completely different when she doesn't have make-up ON and it is a little bothersome. She goes out of her way to always make sure to have a good amount of make-up ON even for small things such as FaceTime before bed time, etc. I don't care about her make-up but her obsession is annoying. I have never met anyone who is into hiding herself or whatever to such a length.

[Anonymous]

That is her. You either accept her for who she is, or you don't.

[Anonymous]

Tell her gently that you appreciate her natural beauty more than her made-up face, and that she's her own, strong woman who doesn't need to hide under make-up.

My circle of friends isn't into make-up - I'm the only one who plays around with it, on a very small scale - but when I was a teen, I was friends with a very pretty girl who told me she felt she had to hide behind make-up to go out anywhere. I thought it was very strange - she looked great without it!

[Anonymous]

If it annoys you now, it will be an even bigger issue when you are dating and need to wait for her to put on a full face of make up every time you want to run to the store or out for whatever.

Only a 1/3 of women wear make-up every day so you have a good chance of finding others that aren't so focused on vanity and their looks. It is also a value thing and to me usually represents women with more traditional gender role views for whom the role of women is to look pretty for their man (and he pays for the date).

[Anonymous]

My preference is for no makeup because of how it feels(and I married a woman who wears it a couple times a year), but your reasons seem a little silly. Wearing makeup isn't hiding who you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My preference is for no makeup because of how it feels(and I married a woman who wears it a couple times a year), but your reasons seem a little silly. Wearing makeup isn't hiding who you are.

Oh no, make-up can become a real mental crutch that some women use to bolster their confidence. Like all things, it's fine in moderation, but if it turns into a compulsive gesture that the woman can't do without... it's a problem. OP is worried about that, I think. And if OP is disturbed by the heavy make-up, I entirely sympathize. It might look great on the red carpet or on TV, but you don't want to kiss that.

[Anonymous]

DH doesn’t like me wearing anything other than lip color and eyeliner. Suits me fine because I don’t bother with makeup otherwise. I’ve had to add mascara and eyebrow pencil as I aged but that’s it.
But women should feel free to do what they like. If her makeup irritates you so much this might not be the right relationship for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My preference is for no makeup because of how it feels(and I married a woman who wears it a couple times a year), but your reasons seem a little silly. Wearing makeup isn't hiding who you are.

Oh no, make-up can become a real mental crutch that some women use to bolster their confidence. Like all things, it's fine in moderation, but if it turns into a compulsive gesture that the woman can't do without... it's a problem. OP is worried about that, I think. And if OP is disturbed by the heavy make-up, I entirely sympathize. It might look great on the red carpet or on TV, but you don't want to kiss that.

Exactly. Bring her to bed and all the sheets and pillows are covered in her make-up. Yikes, no thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My preference is for no makeup because of how it feels(and I married a woman who wears it a couple times a year), but your reasons seem a little silly. Wearing makeup isn't hiding who you are.

Oh no, make-up can become a real mental crutch that some women use to bolster their confidence. Like all things, it's fine in moderation, but if it turns into a compulsive gesture that the woman can't do without... it's a problem. OP is worried about that, I think. And if OP is disturbed by the heavy make-up, I entirely sympathize. It might look great on the red carpet or on TV, but you don't want to kiss that.

Yes, this is what I think he is discussing here if make-up is going to be her entire life before doing anything is crazy. OP, what does your partner do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it annoys you now, it will be an even bigger issue when you are dating and need to wait for her to put on a full face of make up every time you want to run to the store or out for whatever.

Only a 1/3 of women wear make-up every day so you have a good chance of finding others that aren't so focused on vanity and their looks. It is also a value thing and to me usually represents women with more traditional gender role views for whom the role of women is to look pretty for their man (and he pays for the date).

This. My dad's wife is like that and we all have to wait around for her. And she still looks bad just in a different way.

[Anonymous]

She sounds super insecure.

[Anonymous]

This is not unusual and I know plenty of women who wear heavy makeup everyday. Men claim they love natural beauty, but natural beauty looks different for every woman. She may have dark patches, acne scars, hyperpigmentation, fine lines, etc. If you don’t like it then breakup with her, but you are being judgmental.

[Anonymous]

Women aren't wearing makeup for a man. It's for her. Learn to love it or move along.

[Anonymous]

Makeup expense, time drain and made up look can be annoying if you have to deal with it on daily basis. Also makeup doesn't exist in vaccines, clothes, bags, jewelry, shoes, hair, salon, spa, nails, cosmetic dermatology, cosmetic dentistry etc are often part of the curated packaging.

I would totally take a low maintenance average looking person over a made up diva regardless of their gender.

[Anonymous]

*in vacuum