Feel bad about starting off the day yelling
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Anonymous
| This is not normal but today was just one of those days. Also compounding issues with one kid and they boiled over. Got kids up and ready for school. Kid 2 was mad that I didn't have more of a certain breakfast item (she had eaten it all in the past few days and I haven't been to the grocery store). We have plenty of other food in the house. Kid 2 asked Kid 1 for said breakfast item and Kid 1 said no. That should have been the end of the story. Instead Kid 2 got mad, started whining incessantly and then kicked Kid 1. I lost it and started yelling. Obviously not the best way to start the day. Please commiserate with me and let me know that this isn't the worst thing in the world. Have apologized to Kid 2 about yelling but stand by my statement that she can't kick her siblings and there is plenty of other food in the house for her eat (very very picky eater). |
Anonymous
| I have had so many days like this. Parenting multiple kids is hard! |
Anonymous
| As someone who struggles with yelling myself, you handled it right. Obviously it's best to keep your cool, but we're human. When you yell, you apologize, repair the relationship, and all work on regulating your emotions (but not in a way that makes the kids feel responsible for yours). |
Anonymous
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Yep, sounds familiar. BTDT.
If it helps, my kids are teens now and there is a lot less yelling in the morning. They just skip breakfast. Problem solved! |
Anonymous
| Totally understandable. Parents are not robots. We have emotions and it is okay for kids to see them. Yelling is not ideal and there might be better ways to express frustration, but it is a normal reaction to a kid being physically aggressive. |
Anonymous
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It happens. Tomorrow is another day.
When we run out of the preferred breakfast for my picky kid, I try to make sure to mention it before the morning so that they know. I'll just say "We're out of waffles, so think about something else you'd like to eat tomorrow morning. We wont' make it to the store until Saturday." When he's prepared it goes much better than when his anxiety spiral starts in the mornings. |
Anonymous
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I've been there. I imagine most people who are being honest will say they have been there, too.
It'll pass, and you know that. Shake it off and let yourself off the hook. It doesn't make you a bad mom. |
Anonymous
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Please don't beat yourself up. Give them a hug after school and say "I'm sorry I yelled at you. Let's all have a better morning tomorrow."
That would have felt good to hear when I was a kid! |
Anonymous
| That's me half the week. It sucks and I try really hard not to and give a ton of chances and ask nicely. But break when they don't listen to the 3 prior requests. Sometimes we have amazing days and everyone gets up and it's all super smooth. And some days are just crud. We do not leave the house mad though and I do hug them and apologize if I lost my temper. I'm not a morning person. |
Anonymous
| Yes of course this is normal. Just apologize and move on. |
Anonymous
This exactly us 2-3 days out of the week. |
Anonymous
| Been there. Moms are human. You get to be imperfect. |
Anonymous
| When your kids are teens, they're going to tell you that growing up, you always seemed like a very angry person. Remember this story as an example why they have that perception. |
Anonymous
| Sometimes morning are really hard. I just have one and sometimes it is hard to get out the door. We all have those types of mornings. |
Anonymous
| Honestly if there's anytime yelling is appropriate it's for physical aggression. |