Younger or prettier ?

[Anonymous]

I’m a bisexual woman in my 40s with wide dating options both on OLD and RL. In real life men in their late 20s to late 30s often hit on me. However, I find that those super young men are not as attractive as myself or as older (40s)r men who are available to me. I would rather date an attractive 40s/50s man than less attractive 20-30s.

I wonder if it’s the same for men. Let’s say, they are choosing between 40s Jessica Alba (who is gorgeous ) and 30s Hillary’s Baldwin (average looking), would they go hotter or younger ? I would pick Jessica Alba or Diane Lane (who is way older than me) over someone younger but average looking.

I often see couples younger woman/older man but being bisexual im not really attracted to house younger women. They are usually average or below average looking so I presume these women couldn’t find a man in their age group or the older man preferred an average looking younger woman over really pretty women his age.

Are men more attracted to youth than to overall looks?

[Anonymous]

Younger AND prettier

[Anonymous]

Looks.

[Anonymous]

I suppose tastes vary widely, OP. Personally, I am more like you. I think physical beauty is nice to look at, but I need other qualities in my significant others: mostly I need them to be attentive and affectionate towards me. I want to converse with mature, intelligent people, who are well read, know the world and are kind to others. I want a significant other who makes me feel comfortable and safe and loved. Their physical attributes come after all these other things. Usually I find all these attributes in older, not younger, people. As I age, of course, this might change, but in my 40s, I'm still more comfortable with people my own age or older.

[Anonymous]

I got divorced at 47. I dated a slew of women, including a 27 year old who was young, hot and tight. But she was also vapid and we had nothing to talk about. And so, while I enjoyed hitting it for a couple of months, I ended up enjoying dating women my own age, plus or minus about 5 years, more. And I ended up marrying one.

That said, the experience of dating someone 20 years younger than me was as valuable as it was briefly fun. I learned a lot about what I wanted in a partner. Youth is beautiful. But it's not necessarily something I wanted to live with on a daily basis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a bisexual woman in my 40s with wide dating options both on OLD and RL. In real life men in their late 20s to late 30s often hit on me. However, I find that those super young men are not as attractive as myself or as older (40s)r men who are available to me. I would rather date an attractive 40s/50s man than less attractive 20-30s.

I wonder if it’s the same for men. Let’s say, they are choosing between 40s Jessica Alba (who is gorgeous ) and 30s Hillary’s Baldwin (average looking), would they go hotter or younger ? I would pick Jessica Alba or Diane Lane (who is way older than me) over someone younger but average looking.

I often see couples younger woman/older man but being bisexual im not really attracted to house younger women. They are usually average or below average looking so I presume these women couldn’t find a man in their age group or the older man preferred an average looking younger woman over really pretty women his age.

Are men more attracted to youth than to overall looks?

Age and health matters more than looks in long term. If you are not looking for serious relationship, doesn't matter, you'll discard each other anyways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got divorced at 47. I dated a slew of women, including a 27 year old who was young, hot and tight. But she was also vapid and we had nothing to talk about. And so, while I enjoyed hitting it for a couple of months, I ended up enjoying dating women my own age, plus or minus about 5 years, more. And I ended up marrying one.

That said, the experience of dating someone 20 years younger than me was as valuable as it was briefly fun. I learned a lot about what I wanted in a partner. Youth is beautiful. But it's not necessarily something I wanted to live with on a daily basis.

I can relate from the other side of that age gap. I dated a very attractive, wealthy 48 year old man for a year from ages 23 to 24—we met through mutual friends. As an Ivy League graduate, I think I impressed him with my intelligence and the depth of our conversations, and we complemented each other extremely well. We traveled together across continents, had an amazing time, and he taught me a lot through his perspective and life experience that I still use today. Like you said, it was brief but genuinely valuable, and it helped clarify what I want in a partner. It was easily the best time of my twenties—very much right for that stage of life.

[Anonymous]

If pedophiles, then age.

Most others, attractiveness.

[Anonymous]

There is no such thing as a hot older woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no such thing as a hot older woman

What’s considered older

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is no such thing as a hot older woman

What’s considered older

40+

[Anonymous]

I will use evolutionary hat and say the most fertile will be the most attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no such thing as a hot older woman

Really now?
How old are you, incel?

[Anonymous]

These men who want really young women are sad. They’re too stunted to handle a women who is their equal. Men like that are a huge turn off. The second I hear a man I’m interested in has dated a 20 something, he is no longer attractive to me because I assume he is emotionally immature.

[Anonymous]

No matter what's your gender or sexual preference, better to have life partner from your own age group, few years younger or older. This way both of you deal with same phases of life and likely age together. Instead of one person having to become a nurse for other and resenting it.