Do you compromise on sexual frequency in your marriage?
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Anonymous
| What’s the compromise? |
Anonymous
| He wants nothing to do with and he's great in every other respect so I have accepted it. That's the compromise. |
Anonymous
How do you survive?! |
Anonymous
| I'd like twice a week. She'd like once every two weeks. We compromise with once a week. |
Anonymous
You get used to it. |
Anonymous
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Similar to pp, he only wants it maybe once every two to three months.
I’ve considered leaving so many times over this. But it just doesn’t seem worth divorcing over. |
Anonymous
Yep. |
Anonymous
| She used to complain 3 times a week wasn't enough. Now she is going through menopause and complaining that once a month a too much. All about her. I'm stuck in the marriage. |
Anonymous
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Doesn’t everyone? Find it hard to imagine having perfectly matched libidos.
Husband generally wants more, we wld probably have sex 2-3 times a week if we based it on my libido alone, but usually we are closer to 5 times a week. He would prefer everyday. When the kids are away, we have sex at least twice a day, but it is hard for me to be relaxed enough for that while kid wrangling. One major observation early after our first kid was born is that husband has sex to relax, and I need to be relaxed to want to have sex. So when we are having a bonkers week he actively takes over more kid stuff to ensure I can be relaxed. It’s not like oh I did x, let’s have sex, more like you’re stressed and I want hot sex, how can I help you also want sex? |
Anonymous
| She has no interest in sex, so we don't have sex. I hate her for it, but I'm not giving up half the time with my kid. |
Anonymous
How old are you guys? Same issues I am having with my fiancee and I am 43 and he is 44. I just don't have much interest in sex and I could see resentment building up in him because of that. |
Anonymous
| Not frequency as much as timing - I strongly prefer morning sex and he wants it before going to sleep. We end up about 50/50. |
Anonymous
| Yes, but he doesn’t know that. I was somehow born into a family of over sharers and my friends are always super open people. And what I learned was that I should say yes unless I really feel too sick. The second thing I learned was that just because you didn’t think you were in the mood doesn’t mean your mood will stay that way. |
Anonymous
If you are honest with him and he knows what he is signing up for, I don't see any issues. He's 44 and should have learned a few things by now. |
Anonymous
Yup 43 married 15 years. We make it work even if it's not always what I want in the moment (M posting F wife) |