How to support friend who discovered husband has been cheating for a decade?

[Anonymous]

Mainly under assumed names on various hookup sites. Was alerted by an anonymous email. All documented.
Has three young kids.

[Anonymous]

Give her a copy of Tracy Schorn’s Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life.
Make sure that she gets STI testing immediately.

[Anonymous]

Just be there when she needs to vent or cry to you.

Also, maybe offer to watch her kids so she can have some time for herself to perhaps get her nails or hair done or buy some new clothes.

You sound like a great friend! ♥️

[Anonymous]

Go with her to get tested and have that first meeting with a divorce lawyer.

Or babysit her kids so she can go.

[Anonymous]

Tell her to read at survivinginfidelity.com.

[Anonymous]

Tell her youre there for her. But, be cautious what you say, because in the end, she might not leave him, and might want to sweep it all under the rug and for you to support that. Just a possibility.

[Anonymous]

Which hookup sites?

[Anonymous]

Bullshit

[Anonymous]

Help her find the best lawyer

[Anonymous]

Give her a big hug and encourage her to cry on your shoulder.
My friends and family were great, but I felt like they treated me as fragile and kept a distance, when really what I needed was someone to give me a huge hug while I sobbed gutturally

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Give her a copy of Tracy Schorn’s Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life.
Make sure that she gets STI testing immediately.

+1.
And immediately get familiar with all your bank accounts and investments and get logins passwords to everything and print statements

[Anonymous]

Take her to a smash room. Babysit her kids while she goes in.

[Anonymous]

Tell her he probably wasn’t physically cheating at all if he was using an assumed name. It was most likely just a series of online affairs. I’d tell her don’t blow up the family over it before she knows what she’s dealing with. If they didn’t know his real name, he wasnt serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bullshit

I know a ton of people who experienced this. One person for 30 years was in the dark. Others find out their spouse is actually married for decades to a second person and has other kids. Once you join a support group you realize how prevalent it is. This behavior happens with closeted gay and straight people.

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of divorce help groups on Facebook. Also people and programs to make moving forward and divorcing if she wants cheaper. You dont have to use a lawyer. Many people just use these cheaper programs and it costs them less than $1000 total.