In love with FWB

[Anonymous]

I’m in love with my FWB of 9 months. Very early in our dating he asked to be official and I declined. I thought he was ok, but wasn’t sure we’d be a good match. 8 months later and I’m in deep. He says he’s loves me too, but when I asked if he wanted to become official he said he’s not in a place to be official with anyone right now.

Do I keep seeing him? Something deep within me says we have serious potential. But maybe I’m just delusional and blinded by all the great sex and laughs.

[Anonymous]

Age?

[Anonymous]

Cut off the sex and see how he behaves.

[Anonymous]

I would cut it off now before you get hurt more.

[Anonymous]

Is your fWB arrangement exclusive?

[Anonymous]

OP here. We are exclusive. Mid 30s and don’t want kids.

[Anonymous]

I guess I just don't understand what's hard about being exclusive? It seems easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I just don't understand what's hard about being exclusive? It seems easier.

OP here. Things are easy between us, but ideally I want things to progress to possibly living together or getting married one day, hence why I brought up making things official to see how it goes.

[Anonymous]

If you are already exclusive, what exactly are you hoping to change? I’d just let it go if it’s just a label and not an actual change in situation you are looking for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are exclusive. Mid 30s and don’t want kids.

So what are the extra benefits here of being official? You are exclusive, sex is great, you don't want kids so marriage is not that big of a deal. You are already winning!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are exclusive. Mid 30s and don’t want kids.

So what are the extra benefits here of being official? You are exclusive, sex is great, you don't want kids so marriage is not that big of a deal. You are already winning!

OP here. I have been really enjoying it. But I want a live in partner one day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are exclusive. Mid 30s and don’t want kids.

So what are the extra benefits here of being official? You are exclusive, sex is great, you don't want kids so marriage is not that big of a deal. You are already winning!

OP here. I have been really enjoying it. But I want a live in partner one day.

It always baffled me when men think that a woman will endlessly be happy with just sex. At some point she wants more. Women are not like us. I think women must release very different hormones than men when they have sex. I am not a woman so obviously just speculating. But maybe women bond more through sex.

And here is a PSA for guys. If you have a FWB who falls for you and like her as well, go for it. These kind of relationships do really work. Sexual compatibility is very important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are exclusive. Mid 30s and don’t want kids.

So what are the extra benefits here of being official? You are exclusive, sex is great, you don't want kids so marriage is not that big of a deal. You are already winning!

OP here. I have been really enjoying it. But I want a live in partner one day.

Why girl? Why? If I had money I would buy the house next door and invite DH over to my house every night. You get to keep your space just the way you like it. Let him move some clothes into your apartment but keep his. Entice him into coming over more often. Give him " incentives ". You are a lucky girl. You just don't know it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are exclusive. Mid 30s and don’t want kids.

So what are the extra benefits here of being official? You are exclusive, sex is great, you don't want kids so marriage is not that big of a deal. You are already winning!

OP here. I have been really enjoying it. But I want a live in partner one day.

It always baffled me when men think that a woman will endlessly be happy with just sex. At some point she wants more. Women are not like us. I think women must release very different hormones than men when they have sex. I am not a woman so obviously just speculating. But maybe women bond more through sex.

And here is a PSA for guys. If you have a FWB who falls for you and like her as well, go for it. These kind of relationships do really work. Sexual compatibility is very important.

You are soeculating indeed. FWBs can still have dates and conversation. Women want commitment, yes. But if they are exclusive, that's commitment enough. All that sharing space is usually more advantageous for men than it is for women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are exclusive. Mid 30s and don’t want kids.

So what are the extra benefits here of being official? You are exclusive, sex is great, you don't want kids so marriage is not that big of a deal. You are already winning!

OP here. I have been really enjoying it. But I want a live in partner one day.

It always baffled me when men think that a woman will endlessly be happy with just sex. At some point she wants more. Women are not like us. I think women must release very different hormones than men when they have sex. I am not a woman so obviously just speculating. But maybe women bond more through sex.

And here is a PSA for guys. If you have a FWB who falls for you and like her as well, go for it. These kind of relationships do really work. Sexual compatibility is very important.

You are soeculating indeed. FWBs can still have dates and conversation. Women want commitment, yes. But if they are exclusive, that's commitment enough. All that sharing space is usually more advantageous for men than it is for women.

PP here. Thanks for correcting me.