Is getting a nose job at 39 absurd?

[Anonymous]

I hate the tip of my nose and always have. I am not opposed to going under the knife but my inner devil’s advocate says What for? To look better in my grave?

I’m married with two young kids, it would only be to satisfy me, purely egotistical of course. I think about it nearly constantly..

Wwyd?

[Anonymous]

Hi op - I have a similar “thing” I hate and this is where I landed (also w two young kids): it’s not the fact that it’s egotistical, or that it’s vain, or that I don’t “deserve” to be able to do it - it’s if something happened (infection, allergic reaction, anesthesia issue) and something happened and I couldn’t care for my kids, I would never ever ever forgive myself. I know it’s a small chance, but I just can’t over something like that. I mean, if they are out of the house and I’m 70 and I still feel the same…I might reconsider LOL

[Anonymous]

Unpopular opinion -- I've had two plastic surgeries (a nose job at 18 and a c section revision to remove scar tissue at 42) and they were two of the best decisions I've ever made. They solved problems that bothered me every day and now and I literally never think about those things any more.

If you do it, go to the best plastic surgeon for that body part you can find.

[Anonymous]

I’m concerned that you think 39 is basically death’s doorstep…

Fwiw, a friend who had always hated her nose got a nose job in her early forties, and she has been really happy with that decision. You only live once, so if you really want to do it just go for it.

[Anonymous]

Go for it! And I'm pretty against unneeded surgery/procedures ~ a much older than you woman posting

[Anonymous]

If you think about it daily and it’s taking up this much space in your head, at least schedule some consultations with surgeons who specialize in rhinoplasty.

Tell them about your concerns and aesthetic ideal. Then you can make an informed decision. Make sure your partner is on board.

I recall reading somewhere that rhinoplasty is one of those surgeries that has the most revisions. The best cosmetic work is the kind that tweaks, in my opinion. I think this is especially true with nose jobs because the nose is such a key feature of the face. And the most perfect nose for one person will not be the best nose on another because of facial structure, other features, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you think about it daily and it’s taking up this much space in your head, at least schedule some consultations with surgeons who specialize in rhinoplasty.

Tell them about your concerns and aesthetic ideal. Then you can make an informed decision. Make sure your partner is on board.

I recall reading somewhere that rhinoplasty is one of those surgeries that has the most revisions. The best cosmetic work is the kind that tweaks, in my opinion. I think this is especially true with nose jobs because the nose is such a key feature of the face. And the most perfect nose for one person will not be the best nose on another because of facial structure, other features, etc.

Yeah, I think that's why it's so important to go to someone really really good. Mine was a leader in the field, and he made a really small adjustment that just brought my face into balance a little better, and my newer nose looks a lot like my father's nose. So not a huge shift but enough that I felt much better and my face looked more pleasant.

[Anonymous]

Also, mine was done in a twilight state, not general anesthesia. I would not go under completely for a cosmetic procedure, because that really is risky.

Rhinoplasty process felt trivial compared compared to how much the final outcome improved my life.

[Anonymous]

Do your kids have the same nose?

[Anonymous]

I would get a couple consultations. Life is long and it doesn’t hurt to see what your options are for correcting something that you wish could be different.
I highly recommend Dr. Jennifer Parker Porter for natural nose jobs. She’s in Bethesda and it is her specialty.

[Anonymous]

Get other saggy things fixed then too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do your kids have the same nose?

One of my sons does, but he has my husband's wider face and it looks good on him.

[Anonymous]

Plastic surgery is massively underrated as a method to improve looks and body image. Do it. You will only regret waiting so long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi op - I have a similar “thing” I hate and this is where I landed (also w two young kids): it’s not the fact that it’s egotistical, or that it’s vain, or that I don’t “deserve” to be able to do it - it’s if something happened (infection, allergic reaction, anesthesia issue) and something happened and I couldn’t care for my kids, I would never ever ever forgive myself. I know it’s a small chance, but I just can’t over something like that. I mean, if they are out of the house and I’m 70 and I still feel the same…I might reconsider LOL

You could die in a car wreck on the way to see a movie. This kind of thinking, that you could die doing something nice for yourself, is disordered and dysfunctional.

[Anonymous]

I got mine done at 42 and am 50 now- I am so happy that I did it. I never loved my nose and once I fixed it was one less worry. The recovery not a big deal.