Would you go on the trip?
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Anonymous
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My best friend is going on an international trip with friends to celebrate turning 30. The country she chose to go to is one that has been treating women horribly lately. I don’t want to spend money on a country like that. I’ve been particular sensitive to poor treatment of women lately.
Is this a good enough reason to not go on the trip? I don’t want to upset my friend. |
Anonymous
| What country? |
Anonymous
| I think it's totally ridiculous and indulgent to expect friends to go on an international birthday trip. You can decline for any reason whatsoever. I would not tell her politics is the reason, though. |
Anonymous
| I don't even travel to Florida anymore. So no, I probably wouldn't go. |
Anonymous
+1 I'm so glad I'm not 30 anymore. |
Anonymous
+2. Also curious about which country this is. |
Anonymous
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The country won't miss your money. But your friend might miss you.
Donate to a targeted charity if you feel guilty but want to go. |
Anonymous
This was not a thing when I was 30. Thank goodness. It's like the 3 day destination bachelorette parties. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't stay away because of politics, but I also wouldn't travel internationally for a friend's birthday. It sounds exhausting. |
Anonymous
Just decline. It’s simple. |
Anonymous
| Unless I felt my own personal safety was in danger I would go if I otherwise wanted to. |
Anonymous
| It sounds like you just don’t want to go and are looking for a viable excuse. Just blame it on budget. Would not bring politics into it — she will feel you are judging her, be embarrassed, etc. |
Anonymous
| Really depends on what country it is OP. If you don't want to go I would not go. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn’t be upset if I invited friends and one of them couldn’t go, for whatever reason. |
Anonymous
| My vacation time and money is so precious, I don't let anyone dictate it ever. Not destination weddings, not birthday trips. |