DMV men on the apps. What's wrong with them?

[Anonymous]

I'm a pretty secure woman but I notice men in this area seem to have weird emotional instability especially the attractive ones. For example I use travel mode and few of the men in other states are rude or confrontational yet the ones in this area reek of insecurity and control. For ex some demand how I look without makeup glasses or contacts to see the natural me as their first message. Others send weird snarky emojis as their first message or go on about how they or their family are rich entrepreneurs in the area. Or say they date a lot of lawyer or doctors. It's so bizarre to disclose all that. The insecurity is crazy and only with DMV men. Wonder why.

[Anonymous]

I'm sure DMV women have their insecurities as well. If you don't like each other, swipe to next.

[Anonymous]

A lot of Type A people in DC, which tends to mean a good amount of neurosis.

[Anonymous]

I live in an area where the men are pretty crazy as well (literally they will demand upfront I need to cook for them before we've even met).

It's a numbers game. I got super clear what I wanted and swiped through about 6000 men. Chatted with maybe 100-200 of those, had a handful of dates, finally met a really great guy I am absolutely crazy about and who adores me.

The trick I've found is weed them out early and move on quickly. I work for a sales company, and when it comes to sales, you go in knowing 99% of people aren't qualified, so you ruthlessly weed them out so they're not wasting time on your calendar. Then it's really just a matter of meeting up to see if you vibe.

[Anonymous]

You sound fat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound fat.

TBH this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound fat.

TBH this.

Keep reassuring yourself. Not at all fat nor insecure but you certainly try hard to make me. I'm quite emotionally strong though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound fat.

TBH this.

Keep reassuring yourself. Not at all fat nor insecure but you certainly try hard to make me. I'm quite emotionally strong though.

Apparently not if you’re on here whining about weirdos on online dating.

[Anonymous]

Oh and also to add I wonder if this only happens to beautiful women because I noticed that I attract this type a lot. Either that or attractive men who are insecure are used to women chasing them and need that ego boost. When they're afraid of losing control is when they put down the woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound fat.

TBH this.

Keep reassuring yourself. Not at all fat nor insecure but you certainly try hard to make me. I'm quite emotionally strong though.

Apparently not if you’re on here whining about weirdos on online dating.

How does that make me fat or insecure?? Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a pretty secure woman but I notice men in this area seem to have weird emotional instability especially the attractive ones. For example I use travel mode and few of the men in other states are rude or confrontational yet the ones in this area reek of insecurity and control. For ex some demand how I look without makeup glasses or contacts to see the natural me as their first message. Others send weird snarky emojis as their first message or go on about how they or their family are rich entrepreneurs in the area. Or say they date a lot of lawyer or doctors. It's so bizarre to disclose all that. The insecurity is crazy and only with DMV men. Wonder why.

They dont want to get catfished

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a pretty secure woman but I notice men in this area seem to have weird emotional instability especially the attractive ones. For example I use travel mode and few of the men in other states are rude or confrontational yet the ones in this area reek of insecurity and control. For ex some demand how I look without makeup glasses or contacts to see the natural me as their first message. Others send weird snarky emojis as their first message or go on about how they or their family are rich entrepreneurs in the area. Or say they date a lot of lawyer or doctors. It's so bizarre to disclose all that. The insecurity is crazy and only with DMV men. Wonder why.

This is rude, and I wouldn't respond.

But ... it's likely because they are tired of meeting people who look nothing like the pictures on the apps. This is a technique designed to get 1) a current picture, 2) a picture that isn't completely filtered + professional makeup. Women don't like it either when men show up 10 years older and 25 lbs heavier than their picture, oh, and the app pic had hair and the guy no longer does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a pretty secure woman but I notice men in this area seem to have weird emotional instability especially the attractive ones. For example I use travel mode and few of the men in other states are rude or confrontational yet the ones in this area reek of insecurity and control. For ex some demand how I look without makeup glasses or contacts to see the natural me as their first message. Others send weird snarky emojis as their first message or go on about how they or their family are rich entrepreneurs in the area. Or say they date a lot of lawyer or doctors. It's so bizarre to disclose all that. The insecurity is crazy and only with DMV men. Wonder why.

They dont want to get catfished

First woman had lip filler and surgery. Second is cute but may have some hormonal issue causing loss of eyebrow hair. If you're into people not wearing makeup at all just date a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I live in an area where the men are pretty crazy as well (literally they will demand upfront I need to cook for them before we've even met).

It's a numbers game. I got super clear what I wanted and swiped through about 6000 men. Chatted with maybe 100-200 of those, had a handful of dates, finally met a really great guy I am absolutely crazy about and who adores me.

The trick I've found is weed them out early and move on quickly. I work for a sales company, and when it comes to sales, you go in knowing 99% of people aren't qualified, so you ruthlessly weed them out so they're not wasting time on your calendar. Then it's really just a matter of meeting up to see if you vibe.

What the actual %$#?

You said "they," That's plural. You have had more than one man demand you cook for them? Bizarre. And an easy "no."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound fat.

TBH this.

Keep reassuring yourself. Not at all fat nor insecure but you certainly try hard to make me. I'm quite emotionally strong though.

Apparently not if you’re on here whining about weirdos on online dating.

How does that make me fat or insecure?? Lol

It doesn't. Some miserable folks on this thread just need to get their daily dose of vitriol out.