People with Good Hair, what do you do with all your free time?

[Anonymous]

Do you conduct cancer research, hike the Appalachian Trail, write novels or have some other time-consuming hobby?

I have an event tonight, so my whole day is planned around how to best optimize good hair for the event. This includes a strategically timed shower, so hair looks clean but isn't too soft. Blow drying in sections. Curling iron so it has some movement, but not a "real housewives" look. Maybe a flt iron for frizz. Some hairspray, but not stiff. And allowing myself time to redo the whole thing before the event if it all goes sideways. So basically, my whole day is spent thinking about/dealing with my hair!

I just wonder what it's like to be one of those people whose natural hair is flattering with minimal intervention - maybe a quick blow-dry or whatever, and you're good for the day (or two, or three!). Do you have curly hair, or a great cut that falls into place? Do you say a gratitude prayer every morning when you wake up and look in the mirror?

And before anyone gives me advice, I have tried every haircut and style over 30 years - long, short, curly, flat. There is no "naturally" easy style for me. I am resigned to ponytail/bun most of the time, and then sacrificing days of my life when necessary for important occasions.

[Anonymous]

Can't you have your hair in a fancy bun for the event? Or a fancy ponytail?
I have long straight hair, and I usually wear it up if I have an evening event. It stays in place and I don't have to worry about it.

[Anonymous]

You might have OCD.

[Anonymous]

Just go get a blowout. Why all the stress.

[Anonymous]

A good friend of mine is a Hollywood movie hairstylist. Funny enough, despite it looking like actors have hair that takes hours, on set you actually have very little time to do hair (actors are only permitted to be on set 12 hours, including the time to get ready/hair/makeup/wardrobe).

So what they do is find a hair style that can be done very quickly that works for the actor’s hair. Often they’ll skip washing and have styles that can be done on 2-3 day hair as well so they don’t waste time washing and blow drying.

It’s be worth experimenting to see if you can find a similar style for your hair, perhaps even work with a stylist.

For me personally, curling is a pain because my hair is too straight and loses the curl quickly. I’ve found either using a wave curler or flat iron is faster and easier. Often I’ll blow dry the night before then use the styling tool in the AM. Dry shampoo and sea salt spray also work well to refresh it in the AM.

[Anonymous]

You have to find the best style for YOUR hair, not anyone else's. I have very long straight hair. I wear a lot of hats. My hair can hold a curl for about a half a day. If I want it to last longer - I use a very small barreled curling iron.

[Anonymous]

I have good hair since I stopped putting heat on it. I don't spend money on anything other than shampoo, conditioner and color. It holds curl and is shiny. No heat is the secret.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can't you have your hair in a fancy bun for the event? Or a fancy ponytail?
I have long straight hair, and I usually wear it up if I have an evening event. It stays in place and I don't have to worry about it.

This. Develop a 3-5min updo that works for everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just go get a blowout. Why all the stress.

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I am usually wash and go, but when I have an event I go to a salon and they do it for me. Takes all the stress away!

[Anonymous]

Could you just try not caring how it looks? My sister has high maintenance hair. She used to spend a lot of time on it but a few years ago just stopped caring. It doesn't look as good as it used to but it's not a huge difference and I doubt that many people she interacts with notice or care. She is happy to have all of the time and money that she used to spend on it.

If you're not quite ready for that step and your hair is high maintenance because it's neither curly nor straight like hers is, she did do Japanese/Brazilian hair straightening every few months for a while - that lasts a long time and lessens time blowing it out.

[Anonymous]

I just don't care anymore, saves a lot of time and money.

[Anonymous]

We have anxiety over other parts of our lives instead of our hair and spend time worrying about those things instead

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you conduct cancer research, hike the Appalachian Trail, write novels or have some other time-consuming hobby?

I have an event tonight, so my whole day is planned around how to best optimize good hair for the event. This includes a strategically timed shower, so hair looks clean but isn't too soft. Blow drying in sections. Curling iron so it has some movement, but not a "real housewives" look. Maybe a flt iron for frizz. Some hairspray, but not stiff. And allowing myself time to redo the whole thing before the event if it all goes sideways. So basically, my whole day is spent thinking about/dealing with my hair!

I just wonder what it's like to be one of those people whose natural hair is flattering with minimal intervention - maybe a quick blow-dry or whatever, and you're good for the day (or two, or three!). Do you have curly hair, or a great cut that falls into place? Do you say a gratitude prayer every morning when you wake up and look in the mirror?

And before anyone gives me advice, I have tried every haircut and style over 30 years - long, short, curly, flat. There is no "naturally" easy style for me. I am resigned to ponytail/bun most of the time, and then sacrificing days of my life when necessary for important occasions.

And you had to make time to come here to post 😄

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just don't care anymore, saves a lot of time and money.

This is the answer

[Anonymous]

OP: you need to get a few wigs. Don't know how they work and how much time you have but you can get a few styles and see which ones you like or try a few out before buying. -DP