What is the appropriate response?

[Anonymous]

"The team feels XYZ (something bad) about you/situation that you were a part of, or So and So has done this for you"....first time hearing things like this in a meeting at a new job. I felt awful and then angry. These things were said when I was out for 2 days last week.

How do you respond to things said like this??

[Anonymous]

Your examples are unclear.
WRT your being out is it
The team felt left in the lurch when you took off last week
Or
Larkena did the reports for you because your were out and they can't be overdue.
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[Anonymous]

Too vague, sorry.

[Anonymous]

I do not understand your post. Maybe rewrite it with an example? Did you do something or did somebody on your team do something? If you were out for two days last week, did somebody do something for you that you should've done?

[Anonymous]

It makes a big difference whether the "situation" is you making a work-related mistake or omission, you being involved in something personal that occurred at work, or something that is absolutely personal from your life having nothing to do with them.

[Anonymous]

There is a lot of context missing that would help to understand this better.

For example, in some jobs when someone is out of office, others pick up the work and understand what to do so overall, the work that needs to be done is handled.

For other jobs, the person is an expert or the single source of information, etc., so when they are out of office, they are still on the hook to get things done. They can do it in advance, do it later and catch up, or try to delegate parts/all of it to someone else, but it remains that person's responsibility to manage it and communicate well so everyone who needs to know the plan is informed.

I don't know which fits your scenario but if you were out and didn't get something done, thank the person who did it, gently apologize for being out and unable to do it, and move on.

Maybe ask your manager how you should handle things like this in the future so you'll better understand everyone's expectations. You said it's a new job so you're still learning how things like this should work there.

[Anonymous]

You respond calmly and thank them for the feedback. You speak to your manager separately, or a possible mentor type figure, to see how to move forward with minimal repeats of the same issues. How can you handle it better in the future?

But, that wording is BS. No one should be "feeling" anything. You aren't five. Just state plainly the situation and what needs to improve. And also to roll it out in a larger meeting (I'm guessing) is kinda BS too. Constructive feedback doesn't need to be public. Now you know and beware.