Older couples with strong sex lives

[Anonymous]

Couples in their late 50s or 60s that have been able to maintain great love lives. What’s your secret?

[Anonymous]

We’re 54/52 so not sure if we count. But we have really good sex once or twice a week and have been married over 20 years. On vacation it will be sex every day.

Some of the things that I think helped are:

1. We read a book called His Needs/Her Needs before we got married and talked about and agreed to what each of us needed to be happy. Her list was much longer than mine. Mine included regular sex.

2. Over the years I’ve met all of her needs and try to do something nice for her every day.

3. We both always gave each other a blank check for staying fit and healthy. For instance, if I want to build a gym in the garage, or if she wants to have multiple fitness memberships, have a trainer, etc. Whatever it takes to stay healthy and feel our best mentally and physically.

4. Being realistic about what it means to be human (aging, sickness, mental health, etc).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re 54/52 so not sure if we count. But we have really good sex once or twice a week and have been married over 20 years. On vacation it will be sex every day.

Some of the things that I think helped are:

1. We read a book called His Needs/Her Needs before we got married and talked about and agreed to what each of us needed to be happy. Her list was much longer than mine. Mine included regular sex.

2. Over the years I’ve met all of her needs and try to do something nice for her every day.

3. We both always gave each other a blank check for staying fit and healthy. For instance, if I want to build a gym in the garage, or if she wants to have multiple fitness memberships, have a trainer, etc. Whatever it takes to stay healthy and feel our best mentally and physically.

4. Being realistic about what it means to be human (aging, sickness, mental health, etc).

This is a good list!

[Anonymous]

open communication about sex and during sex
lube
taking pride in our appearance - staying trim and fit, dressing well, being well groomed, etc.
it's actually easier with the kids out
still schedule dates and sex time - the formality helps not take each other for granted (of course, we have spontaneous moments, too, but we don't rely on that)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Couples in their late 50s or 60s that have been able to maintain great love lives. What’s your secret?

Getting married in your 50s.

[Anonymous]

Stay thin and don’t be jerks toward each other

[Anonymous]

Table manners and closing the bathroom door. Avoiding gassy foods.

[Anonymous]

If you value your sex life then you will work towards communication and being fit. Remove the stressors and priortize each other. If you are each other's best friends and have a lot of love and affection, you can work your way out of a sexual drought.

My DH and I had a great sex life except the past few months has been not that great because of my cancer diagnosis. We talk and discuss often about how we can adjust our sex life and how it will be impacted because of radiation and chemo etc.

Truly, it is a way to be close to each other and you need to talk about it. Both of you have to be on the same page. Also, if you understand that you will not always be in a physical state to have PIV sex through out your life then you will appreciate what you have in the present.

Just like your life is finite, your sex life is also finite.

[Anonymous]

"'Getting married in your 50s."

+100

[Anonymous]

Keeping in shape. We have both made it a priority though I (woman) have had to work much harder. It’s worth it though. We’ve been at 2x a week all the time, more on vacation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Table manners and closing the bathroom door. Avoiding gassy foods.

Could you please tell this to my DH? It makes him so unattractive. Well, that and the extra 30lbs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"'Getting married in your 50s."

after divorce and new relationships are always better sex. At least initially….i am in one now. We’ll see if it can be sustained.

[Anonymous]

HRT has helped us a lot

[Anonymous]

1. Be in good shape
2. Lube
3. Lube again
4. Make sure you take care of your partner.
5. Lube
6. Did I say stay in shape?
7. Plan in advance and make it a regular thing.
8. Maybe your body hair has needs to be trimmed on occasion?
9. You still like each other
10. There are times when the kids are gone.

[Anonymous]

Kids gone definitely helps. We're late 40s with two teenagers. One has a job and the other has a weekend activity he can bike to. The two of us are well aware of the times when both are out of the house.