Any 40-something widows actually find love again?

[Anonymous]

Widow here, 47 with 2 tweens. It’s been 2 years and I’m finally starting to think about dating again, but honestly not sure if that’s even realistic at this point.

I’ve got a good career, lots of friends, hobbies, no debt, about $1M net worth. I’m Black, size 8, pretty fit but could lose a few. I feel like I have my life together but I don’t know what dating even looks like for someone like me. My late husband was white but I’m open to all races. I tried bumble for a few weeks but no one seemed genuine.

Do men my age even date widows with kids still at home? Would love to know what’s realistic!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Widow here, 47 with 2 tweens. It’s been 2 years and I’m finally starting to think about dating again, but honestly not sure if that’s even realistic at this point.

I’ve got a good career, lots of friends, hobbies, no debt, about $1M net worth. I’m Black, size 8, pretty fit but could lose a few. I feel like I have my life together but I don’t know what dating even looks like for someone like me. My late husband was white but I’m open to all races. I tried bumble for a few weeks but no one seemed genuine.

Do men my age even date widows with kids still at home? Would love to know what’s realistic!

You're most likely looking at divorced men with kids. There are plenty of them in the DMV. I would try blind dates with friends of friends or colleagues before doing OLD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Widow here, 47 with 2 tweens. It’s been 2 years and I’m finally starting to think about dating again, but honestly not sure if that’s even realistic at this point.

I’ve got a good career, lots of friends, hobbies, no debt, about $1M net worth. I’m Black, size 8, pretty fit but could lose a few. I feel like I have my life together but I don’t know what dating even looks like for someone like me. My late husband was white but I’m open to all races. I tried bumble for a few weeks but no one seemed genuine.

Do men my age even date widows with kids still at home? Would love to know what’s realistic!

Since you won't have kids again most likely, you should enjoy being a cougar for about 10 years if you still have the body for it, then when you are approaching 60 find a nice widowed man in his late 60s to 70s to simply be together for companionship.

[Anonymous]

It's good you're open-minded, because if you're looking to date within your race, available black men are pretty hard to find. The only worse city in the US for this is Atlanta, where educated, eligible Black women outnumber similar Black men 10-to-1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Erika Kirk did.

She has low standards.

[Anonymous]

Erika Kirk found love already? Of was she a widow when she met Charlie?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Erika Kirk found love already? Of was she a widow when she met Charlie?

Seen those recent clips of her and JD?

[Anonymous]

I am white and childless but I had a ton of success dating in my mid forties. It was easier than dating in my mid to late thirties.

[Anonymous]

Goodness, don't look for trouble. Your life sounds pretty awesome right now and you're just going to bring some loser into it to halve your happiness and double your troubles. Leave well enough alone.

[Anonymous]

Being widowed or divorced with kids at home is pretty much the same. I am 48. I divorced at 42. Don’t count on finding love again. Possible? Sure. Likely? No.

I am sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am white and childless but I had a ton of success dating in my mid forties. It was easier than dating in my mid to late thirties.

I think it is easier for casual but not for long term at all.

[Anonymous]

Anything is possible. That's the truth.

[Anonymous]

Widow here. For me yes. Different than with my DH but still sweet and he makes me happy. Met him online and enjoy being with him. He’s kind to my children, especially my son.
I was ready OP, tired of being lonely and putting others first all the time. I also wanted to model a healthy dating life for my kids. And my kids wanted me to be happy too.
The first step is put yourself out there and keep an open mind. Have fun with it. Even bad dates make good stories for your friends to laugh with you about.

[Anonymous]

Oh yes but it takes concentrated effort. A friend of mine, widowed in her late 40s, married a widower after placing/responding to online postings…yes, OLD. Yes, a minor child at home.

Are there still meetings of groups such as Parents without Partners? If you are religiously affiliated, put the word out to your minister, rabbi, or imam, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Widow here, 47 with 2 tweens. It’s been 2 years and I’m finally starting to think about dating again, but honestly not sure if that’s even realistic at this point.

I’ve got a good career, lots of friends, hobbies, no debt, about $1M net worth. I’m Black, size 8, pretty fit but could lose a few. I feel like I have my life together but I don’t know what dating even looks like for someone like me. My late husband was white but I’m open to all races. I tried bumble for a few weeks but no one seemed genuine.

Do men my age even date widows with kids still at home? Would love to know what’s realistic!

When I was dating at that age, I would not date widows. I was worried about competing with a dead man. I am not saying this to be mean or cruel, just giving you real talk. Good luck. I am sure there are better men than me.