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Share a swear or epithet (asterisks) that your kids would be shocked if you said EVEN if you were repeating what someone else said.
Was watching a movie with my 14yo, and she missed what someone said. I repeated it and she was FLOORED that I said it out loud. Even though I wasn’t saying it, I was repeating it. Whether or not your kids hear you swear, I’m talking about, even if you *read it aloud in literature or an article. Or repeat it instead of referring to it. The word the movie said, and I repeated was f**. Movie was The Breakfast Club |
| In her mind, I should have quietly referred to the word. Like oh, the f word that is 3 letters. Or whispered it. |
| Ok and also n word is one we know our kids would be shocked even repeating. That is certainly the case for me. Have never spoken it in my life except reading aloud in literature in class in the 90s. |
| It's because she is 14, say it again at 24 and see her response |
| I think swears and slurs are different. I would say the four-letter f-word in front of my tween (e.g., if repeating a movie line) but I would probably say "he called him a slur" if repeating a line with a slur in it. |
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I don't know what planet you're living on, but teens are swimming in swear words on social media and entertainment. Schools are replete with swear words. Mostly the F word.
But some teens don't want to hear their *parents* say them. It makes them uncomfortable, because they're young enough to think that their parents are supposed to be incredibly responsible, mature authority figures on pedestals. That's a normal developmental phase, OP. It will pass! |
That is an epithet not a swear. |
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DH curses like a sailor...so no shock there. I try not to, but when I do, I get a giggle from DD.
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| Casual use of that word plus just “that’s so gay” as ridicule and also the r-word in the 1980s were super common. It was a completely different time. |
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Gen A is fine with the soft “N” word (if one is Black) but floored if they hear the hard “N” word.
Makes perfect sense. |
| It’s not ok for anyone to use the n word. |
| Nothing, I didn’t raise my kid’s to censor their speech. They understand there’s a time and place to say things but they don’t shy away from any specific words or freak out if someone else says something. |
Hello, I know this. I asked is there one that your kids would be shocked by coming from your mouth. Any or all? For example, I don’t swear mix but my kid wouldn’t be floored if I did, especially if I were angry. But she was completely shocked at this word leaving my mouth, even though it was describing the part of the movie she missed. Your answer? |
The answer is in the second paragraph that you responded to. Maybe read before snarking? |
Maybe https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_42tJgX_S48 |