After parties for freshmen?

[Anonymous]

Is this common? My DC is going to 2 homecoming dances this year and both have planned after parties for the freshmen. I can’t remember house parties for freshmen in my HS days but maybe I’m wrong?

[Anonymous]

My kid wasn’t invited and is clueless if there were. Our school did an on campus dinner for the ninth graders which was a really nice way to make sure kids felt included and everyone had a pre-dance something to do. Afterward, I’m sure there were a couple parties. It’s HS.

[Anonymous]

It’s very common in our 2 privates (kids at different high schools). After parties freshman year surprised me too. One of my DC passed and went out with a big group for ice cream instead.

[Anonymous]

I know people who let their kids stay out until 3:00am party hopping.

[Anonymous]

That's stupid.

Parents are being pressured into putting their children into situations they aren't ready for. It isn't for the kids, it's more for their standing in the class.

[Anonymous]

Yes freshman parents host after parties at my school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's stupid.

Parents are being pressured into putting their children into situations they aren't ready for. It isn't for the kids, it's more for their standing in the class.

Yup. Parents want to control the narrative of who is invited and whatnot. GOP parents tend to take these roles which is funny - so much for law and order....

[Anonymous]

Yes, it happens. My child went to one recently and said there was drinking. The parents didn’t do bag/jacket checks. The party was in the backyard and the parents stayed in the house the entire time. There was no adult supervision so it was very easy to bring in alcohol. Parents, please do better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it happens. My child went to one recently and said there was drinking. The parents didn’t do bag/jacket checks. The party was in the backyard and the parents stayed in the house the entire time. There was no adult supervision so it was very easy to bring in alcohol. Parents, please do better.

The same thing happened at St. Andrew's when my child was a freshman. The kids had alcohol in the basement and the parents ignored the whole thing.

[Anonymous]

There was drinking and gummies at the one my kid attended. He told me the next day when I pressed why he wanted to come home early.

[Anonymous]

No. Home after dance, no after parties.

[Anonymous]

Tell your 9th grader to be home by midnight.

Give them a good reason to leave, but have grace if the Uber is late.

[Anonymous]

This is crazy. 9th grade?

[Anonymous]

If there was an after party for 9th graders, my kid was not invited (thank god!). His school had a pre-party dinner for all of the 9th graders and it was a blast. My 11th grader (same school) got together with 20+ kids for a laser tag after party. They had a great time.

I'm having a hard time trusting other parents these days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it happens. My child went to one recently and said there was drinking. The parents didn’t do bag/jacket checks. The party was in the backyard and the parents stayed in the house the entire time. There was no adult supervision so it was very easy to bring in alcohol. Parents, please do better.

Some parents use their home security cameras while hosting to keep an extra eye on the kids during a party