Experience with Title IX grievance process?

[Anonymous]

A child’s family received notice of a Title IX grievance process involving the child as the alleged wrongdoer. The family is wondering what this process entails. The incident was quite minor and it’s unclear whose rights could have been violated (the teacher noted that no other kids noticed what happened). Does anyone have experience with this process and what can result from it?

[Anonymous]

I thought the Trump administration got rid of all the employees that handle those things at the US department of education?

[Anonymous]

OP. The notice was from DCPS. Agree everything at DoE is being gutted, but this is DCPS.

[Anonymous]

Was the notice from the dcps cares team? If so, we had a very unnecessarily challenging experience with them. Tread carefully especially depending upon the age of the child. I would recommend against allowing the child to be interviewed.

[Anonymous]

We had repeat, serious incidents at our DCPS with the same wrongdoer and a variety of victims. By stonewalling, the parents of the wrongdoer were able to avoid basically any consequences, so that's what I'd recommend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was the notice from the dcps cares team? If so, we had a very unnecessarily challenging experience with them. Tread carefully especially depending upon the age of the child. I would recommend against allowing the child to be interviewed.

OP. yes, it was from CARES. Zero explanation about the process and potential outcomes. Inclined not to allow the child to be interviewed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was the notice from the dcps cares team? If so, we had a very unnecessarily challenging experience with them. Tread carefully especially depending upon the age of the child. I would recommend against allowing the child to be interviewed.

OP. yes, it was from CARES. Zero explanation about the process and potential outcomes. Inclined not to allow the child to be interviewed.

Not sure if it was CARES but we had a frivolous “bias” complaint filed against my kid that went to some sort of central office investigation. I declined to let him be interviewed and eventually it was closed because the complainant was full of sh*t. There are a variety of things that trigger investigations that are totally disproportionate and unless it is an actual subpoena I suggest ignoring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had repeat, serious incidents at our DCPS with the same wrongdoer and a variety of victims. By stonewalling, the parents of the wrongdoer were able to avoid basically any consequences, so that's what I'd recommend.

How do you know what the parents did?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was the notice from the dcps cares team? If so, we had a very unnecessarily challenging experience with them. Tread carefully especially depending upon the age of the child. I would recommend against allowing the child to be interviewed.

OP. yes, it was from CARES. Zero explanation about the process and potential outcomes. Inclined not to allow the child to be interviewed.

Not sure if it was CARES but we had a frivolous “bias” complaint filed against my kid that went to some sort of central office investigation. I declined to let him be interviewed and eventually it was closed because the complainant was full of sh*t. There are a variety of things that trigger investigations that are totally disproportionate and unless it is an actual subpoena I suggest ignoring.

Forgot to add - in our case the complaint was also filed by the teacher for a comment that no other child heard. The parent of the child that it was supposedly about also declined to participate and the matter was closed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had repeat, serious incidents at our DCPS with the same wrongdoer and a variety of victims. By stonewalling, the parents of the wrongdoer were able to avoid basically any consequences, so that's what I'd recommend.

How do you know what the parents did?

They were upfront about their approach. They truly did not give af.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the comments. Family is truly astonished given the minor incident. Will this be on the child’s “record” in any sense? The family is disciplining at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the comments. Family is truly astonished given the minor incident. Will this be on the child’s “record” in any sense? The family is disciplining at home.

DP poster but literally just refuse any interview or access to the child. I also know of serious physical DCPS situations where the school just pushes it under the rug. They can’t make your child talk - do not let them interview them. Agree with the stonewalling comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the comments. Family is truly astonished given the minor incident. Will this be on the child’s “record” in any sense? The family is disciplining at home.

DP poster but literally just refuse any interview or access to the child. I also know of serious physical DCPS situations where the school just pushes it under the rug. They can’t make your child talk - do not let them interview them. Agree with the stonewalling comment.

OP - thank you.

[Anonymous]

Interesting that nobody thinks it is critical for the parents to talk to their own child about what happened. The incident may or may not be “frivolous.” The message you send to your kid is important. The adult sexual harassers started their sexual harassment long before they became adults. Kids have to be taught from the beginning what is acceptable behavior - no matter how “minor” the incident is. Parents/guardians need to be having these conversations with their kids - using age-appropriate language and concepts, of course. The DCUM consensus to just ignore the whole thing is frigtening and dangerous. And it is why we are in a mess in this country today. Everybody needs to do their part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Interesting that nobody thinks it is critical for the parents to talk to their own child about what happened. The incident may or may not be “frivolous.” The message you send to your kid is important. The adult sexual harassers started their sexual harassment long before they became adults. Kids have to be taught from the beginning what is acceptable behavior - no matter how “minor” the incident is. Parents/guardians need to be having these conversations with their kids - using age-appropriate language and concepts, of course. The DCUM consensus to just ignore the whole thing is frigtening and dangerous. And it is why we are in a mess in this country today. Everybody needs to do their part.

True. And yet, involving the school district seems unnecessary.