Dealing with GF who has avoidant personality

[Anonymous]

GF start talking about "we are done" or break-up when we argue about something. Most of the issues come when I put my boundaries if she is extremely critical and micromanages me or how I am doing things. I am 44 and she is 43 and her kids are in college and mine are 14 and 12. She interferes in my parenting and get upset when I tell her to not worry about certain things that kids mom and I are deciding on. She is also a helicopter parent to her 25 and 21 year old daughters and track their location and try to go and help them for every little thing, emotionally or not. We took therapy for a while and things were better but haven't done it for a couple of months because our therapist was out sick. She criticizes but can't take the criticism if I tell her to not do it or she is hurting my feelings.

[Anonymous]

If this is a real post.....why are you with her? This sounds like a miserable relationship

[Anonymous]

Sir, this woman and relationship is not for you.
Move on with your life - less her.

[Anonymous]

Work on yourself and always hold your boundaries. Do not allow gf to chime in on your young children, it is not her place. Do not move her into your home, because she is dysfunctional and it will impact your children. Ask her to consider individual therapy.

[Anonymous]

Dude, break up. This sounds awful. Spare your kids and MOVE ON.

[Anonymous]

Sounds as if she has untreated anxiety. At her age, unless she really makes an effort to change, which will probably require meds, it might be a futile endeavor to stay long-term.

Sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

Op here. Yes, I am thinking about the same thing but wanted others perspective in case I am missing something. she is not living with me. Was during last year but then living separetly due to for her work. She has a few medical issues such as type 2, PCOS, Hashimoto and ADHD. She is on all these meds except ADHD and an anti-depressant. I am also trying to see if this is due to medical reasons of her hormones at this age because she was very sweet and kind at the starting and we are together for about 3 years.

[Anonymous]

One of the best lessons I ever learned is when someone says "we are done", you say "okay", leave, block, and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of the best lessons I ever learned is when someone says "we are done", you say "okay", leave, block, and move on.

+1

[Anonymous]

teen mom. No thanks break up.

[Anonymous]

Ya, looks like she got married very early and how educated she is because of that.

[Anonymous]

Split. Detach with love. This will end badly and screw up your kids.

[Anonymous]

Agree with everyone else but add demote to FWB while lining up a new GF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree with everyone else but add demote to FWB while lining up a new GF.

PP, this is hard to do when the relationship is toxic. There are feelings and resentment involved and not worth to move to a FWB level.

[Anonymous]

I'm all for trying to work things out and trying to work with people's medical/mental health issues. EXCEPT when it comes to involvement with your kids. Your number one role is to protect your kids, and that means not dating someone who is unstable.