Do you know any couples where one of them is much more attractive than the other?

[Anonymous]

What do you think the reasons are for this? Money, settling?

[Anonymous]

Sure. There is a dad at my kid's school, that while short, is literally gorgeous. Like, movie star looks. So handsome that women talk about him.

His wife looks like any of the other frumpy, dumpy middle aged moms.

All we can guess is that he loves her.

[Anonymous]

I assume that when they were young, they were much better-looking. My husband was cute as a button when we met. Unfortunately he'd spent years in full tropical sun without protection, and now his skin is full of age spots. He's fit and trim and muscly, so to me he's still attractive, but his face is aged beyond his years. He should get laser treatment.

[Anonymous]

Maybe they genuinely find their spouse attractive.

[Anonymous]

That would be DH and me.

We met online back around 2010. He stood out immediately because he had obviously actually read my profile and sent a message showing genuine interest. I was tired of dealing with F boys. I was 24, he was 29 and had some maturity to him.

He may not be as conventionally attractive as others or what people would think I would end up with, but I'm attracted to him and that's what matters.

He's an amazing husband and dad. To me, how he treats me and the kind of relationship we have is way more important than looks. I dated enough hot duds when I was younger to learn to appreciate the things that matter.

[Anonymous]

Yes, me. My wife was waaay more attractive than me when we got together in our late 20’s. Now that we’re in our 50’s we’re on about the same level.

[Anonymous]

Every single couple I have seen the wife is more attractive including mine. It's hard to compete about women when it comes to attractiveness to be fair.

[Anonymous]

Yep. He gets to cheat, barely work and she always sticks round.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Yep. He gets to cheat, barely work and she always sticks round.

Sounds fair. The Hot Tax.

[Anonymous]

Looks can fade over time. It is more important if you are compatible and treated well.

I feel over the course of our marriage, sometimes I looked better and other times he did - depends on our weights, how tired we are, if we weren't working so much, etc.

[Anonymous]

Yes, the husband is an extremely attractive Hollywood executive. Wife is older and average looking.

[Anonymous]

Mostly no. But I do know some couples where one partner puts WAY more effort into their appearance than the other. And it's not always the woman. Like I know one couple where the man has a very high level finance job and always looks impeccable -- frequent hair cuts, nails always perfectly tended, clothes always carefully selected and tasteful and flattering, etc. His wife is an artist and homemaker and she's the same level of attractiveness but is just kind of sloppy with her appearance. Hair is always a little unkempt, split ends, frizz. Clothes don't always match and sometimes have holes or other visible wear. Wears no makeup but also doesn't seem to take great care of her skin, which is often ruddy or dry.

So even though they are pretty equal in innate attractiveness, your first impression is that he's very good looking and she's kind of a mess.

[Anonymous]

DH was always the better looking among the two of us, though I could hold my own. We met in our mid-20s. He looks even better now in our mid-50s while time has not been as kind to my looks. If someone saw us as a couple for the first time now I’m sure they’d have a raised eyebrow.

[Anonymous]

I think you see the difference more in people in their late 40s and 50s and up where one person aged well and another less so.

[Anonymous]

People age differently. But typically, by the 50s, it's often the man who looks better. Maybe it's exercise and diet. Maybe menopause really hits women. But generally, a man who takes care of himself has a much longer stay in the attractive box. It's very distinct for couples in their 40s/50s.