Ha, I tamed the office brat

[Anonymous]

Got a new colleague earlier this year, and she's a real snot. Only talks to her own team even to the point of ignoring greetings, ices out other colleagues, bypasses SOPs, generally acts like she has all the authority and no one can tell her anything. (Reader, she does not have the authority. She is well below me in seniority, but on a different branch of the org chart.)

I seethed when it made extra work for me, and I hated the vibe she created, especially when she was dismissive of folks on my team. But I decided life's too short and to try to win her over. No loss for me if I failed, right?

But it worked. After a few months of engaging her in conversation while blithely ignoring her dead-eyed stare, of asking for her opinion on things I didn't need her input on, and of mentioning her interests, I won. She has started to say hello to me! Today for the first time, she sought me out for a pleasant greeting. She has initiated conversations about work AND non-work topics! It's like when a rescue animal sits next to you on the couch for the first time.

Yeah so I just had to tell someone. It's as big a win as I'm going to get in my sector these days.

[Anonymous]

Good for you. Life is too short to be annoyed.

[Anonymous]

Your attitude is piss pour.

[Anonymous]

This woman may have anxiety or HFAUD and it comes out in ways you do not understand. Calling a woman a brat untoward.

[Anonymous]

I think I like the office brat better than you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your attitude is piss pour.

Not OP, but it is actually quite the opposite. She used kindness to turn someone. Even fake kindness is better than a fight or power struggle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This woman may have anxiety or HFAUD and it comes out in ways you do not understand. Calling a woman a brat untoward.

I have anxiety. I don't use it to be rude to people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I like the office brat better than you.

Not me, but I also wouldn't have given into the brat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This woman may have anxiety or HFAUD and it comes out in ways you do not understand. Calling a woman a brat untoward.

I have anxiety. I don't use it to be rude to people.

She may not realize she's being rude. That's the point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your attitude is piss pour.

Not OP, but it is actually quite the opposite. She used kindness to turn someone. Even fake kindness is better than a fight or power struggle.

She's a fake. Calling a fellow woman a "brat" with "Ha" is a terrible attitude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This woman may have anxiety or HFAUD and it comes out in ways you do not understand. Calling a woman a brat untoward.

I have anxiety. I don't use it to be rude to people.

She may not realize she's being rude. That's the point.

And OP wasn't rude to her to make her aware. She was overly friendly and it worked. What's the problem?

[Anonymous]

Team OP. I don't care what's your excuse for being rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your attitude is piss pour.

Not OP, but it is actually quite the opposite. She used kindness to turn someone. Even fake kindness is better than a fight or power struggle.

She's a fake. Calling a fellow woman a "brat" with "Ha" is a terrible attitude.

Nope, some grown ass people really are brats.

[Anonymous]

Kudos OP!

[Anonymous]

Team OP