People who tell you personal things when you didn't ask

[Anonymous]

Is this an older-lady thing? I've noticed it with my MIL and two 65+ neighbors. They just randomly start going on about their recent malady, work or home issue or some recent news that you have no interest in whatsoever but they feel the need to share.
ex: neighbors are standing around talking about whatever, Larla comes over and just starts going on about her home in Florida and how she has to go there this weekend to continue hurricane damage clean up. No one asked. It's as if she wants us to congratulate her on having a home in Florida and feel bad about the hurricane damage - which we all did last year when it happened. It's very awkward and annoying.

Do we all become like this? Or do they just have not enough outlets for sharing?

[Anonymous]

I really do not mind it unless it's odd bragging. Sometimes people just crave connection and to be heard. I'm more of a listener so it suits me fine.

[Anonymous]

I’m not sure how only now at this phase of life you discovered that some people over share.

Engage or don’t. It’s not hard. Up to you.

[Anonymous]

People make small talk and talk about things that are important to them. Perhaps they should always just be talking about you?

[Anonymous]

Oh no, people will overshare at ANY age.

[Anonymous]

Lonely people do this more often. They sound lonely.

[Anonymous]

I'm not old but I do this to connect with people. Sometimes it works and I've gotten lovers, best friends, freinds-like-family this way but sometimes it doesn't.

When it doesn't work, I know I'm not for them and that's ok. And I actually appreciate it because it saves me a lot of time and energy.

[Anonymous]

We were taught not to ask about something personal. If the person wanted to tell us, they would.

[Anonymous]

Just here to note that it is also weird to never share any personal information without being asked. Makes you hard to get to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this an older-lady thing? I've noticed it with my MIL and two 65+ neighbors. They just randomly start going on about their recent malady, work or home issue or some recent news that you have no interest in whatsoever but they feel the need to share.
ex: neighbors are standing around talking about whatever, Larla comes over and just starts going on about her home in Florida and how she has to go there this weekend to continue hurricane damage clean up. No one asked. It's as if she wants us to congratulate her on having a home in Florida and feel bad about the hurricane damage - which we all did last year when it happened. It's very awkward and annoying.

Do we all become like this? Or do they just have not enough outlets for sharing?

Is this really over sharing OP? These are your neighbors and family. I was expecting that someone told you they had diarrhea or sex last night or something more pearl clutching. This is a way to connect. I really wish people were the way they use to be.

[Anonymous]

OP are you a robot incapable of conversing with other humans

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this an older-lady thing? I've noticed it with my MIL and two 65+ neighbors. They just randomly start going on about their recent malady, work or home issue or some recent news that you have no interest in whatsoever but they feel the need to share.
ex: neighbors are standing around talking about whatever, Larla comes over and just starts going on about her home in Florida and how she has to go there this weekend to continue hurricane damage clean up. No one asked. It's as if she wants us to congratulate her on having a home in Florida and feel bad about the hurricane damage - which we all did last year when it happened. It's very awkward and annoying.

Do we all become like this? Or do they just have not enough outlets for sharing?

Is this really over sharing OP? These are your neighbors and family. I was expecting that someone told you they had diarrhea or sex last night or something more pearl clutching. This is a way to connect. I really wish people were the way they use to be.

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None of that was inappropriate!

[Anonymous]

No, It's a personality thing. I've heard people of all ages and walks of life share details of their lives.

[Anonymous]

Really Op? You said “ It's as if she wants us to congratulate her on having a home in Florida and feel bad about the hurricane damage “….i can’t figure out how you gathered that from what you shared. Weird!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this an older-lady thing? I've noticed it with my MIL and two 65+ neighbors. They just randomly start going on about their recent malady, work or home issue or some recent news that you have no interest in whatsoever but they feel the need to share.
ex: neighbors are standing around talking about whatever, Larla comes over and just starts going on about her home in Florida and how she has to go there this weekend to continue hurricane damage clean up. No one asked. It's as if she wants us to congratulate her on having a home in Florida and feel bad about the hurricane damage - which we all did last year when it happened. It's very awkward and annoying.

Do we all become like this? Or do they just have not enough outlets for sharing?

Is this really over sharing OP? These are your neighbors and family. I was expecting that someone told you they had diarrhea or sex last night or something more pearl clutching. This is a way to connect. I really wish people were the way they use to be.

+1
None of that was inappropriate!

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