Large busted ladies, help me with wardrobe and confidence
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Anonymous
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I finally got properly bra-fitted after neglecting/minimizing myself since multiple back to back pregnancies. In 9 years I've gone from a 34E to 38G!
With my new bras I look amazing.. perky, definitely have a more hourglass shape... The issues I'm facing now are: 1) I think my wardrobe isn't right. Shirts are looking too tight, or the shape just doesn't look right anymore. Examples include boatneck which usually looks elegant on me, now does not work. I feel like getting rid of most of my shirts and maybe have to find better brands or fits. I have somewhat narrower shoulders, so collared blouses have never looked great on me. I generally wear size XL right now. I'm on the taller side but Tall sizes never fit well. I absolutely hate basically any Plus Size brands and they never fit right anyway, so I buy regular brands in size XL or 14-16. I lean towards more feminine and elegant styles. Fall and dark colors look best on me. I have a large belly that is decreasing but also needs to be factored in to my fit. Any recommendations for shops or fits? I'm too into habit, shopping at the same places all the time.. I think I need to step away from Uniqlo. I like the simple styles but I think I have to admit the size and fit doesn't suit me. Recommendations appreciated! 2) I need to hold my head (and chest) high! I noticed self-consciously that even though I felt beautiful and was dressed very professionally in a dark brown shirt and brown satin skirt, I tended to shrink a little bit when walking past men - I felt like my boobs were looking so good I don't want to grab attention! I even walked by some people and instinctively held my package over my chest. That's when I realized I have a problem! I feel and look great -- how do I walk around with confidence in my new well-fitting bras! What would help me mentally? Appreciate any advice! - newly fitted and needing help |
Anonymous
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Take your measurements and use the size charts.
You’ll probably find that your bust is bigger than the size chart expects based on your other measurements. Generally, buy the size that is covers your biggest measurements and be aware that you might need to tailor it somewhere else. Clothes are sized for a certain range of body variation and you might fall outside it. The size charts will help you know where and how and that will help you shop. |
Anonymous
| I think you should use the free professional stylists at department stores for this. |
Anonymous
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How tall are you?
Stop worrying about men looking at your breasts, I guess. Just assumed they take a peek when they can and move on with your day. |
Anonymous
| I am only a D with narrow shoulders, and I have pretty much given up on shirts. I don’t think you’ll ever get one to fit properly unless it involves extensive tailoring. I wear lots of knitwear instead. I get most compliments on St John stuff which I buy used at a steep discount on Poshmark or The Real Real. I think you should at least try on some expensive knits to see if they work for you. |
Anonymous
| Men are going to stare at G cups. It’s as certain as the sun rising in the east. As long as they’re not talking to your chest in the office just act cool. |
Anonymous
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On top: no ruffles, no pleats, no pockets, no embellishments.
For casual wear, obvious probably - nothing ever written across your chest. |
Anonymous
| I want to know what these bras are and where you got them! |
Anonymous
Le Bustiere - shops in Adams Morgan and Bethesda! Very prompt and professional help with measurements and advice. I think they are limited in options in my size and above. The bra that is now my all time fave is a balconette by Curvy Kate. I also got a convertible/strapless which is exciting because I thought those were impossible for me. |
Anonymous
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OP: thank you all for your comments and suggestions! This bra fitting is one of many changes, all with a ripple effect: less and healthier eating, weight loss, teeth improvements, hair growing out, (hopefully) job stability... The next thing on my list is to meet with a stylist and I have a virtual call next week. The new bras are what pushed me over the edge to realize I need not only different sizes, but most likely different styles and brands of clothing.
I like the suggestion of trying knits. Thankful for the other poster with narrow shoulders. Confirmed my thoughts - will likely give away whatever blouses I have left that I keep thinking I'll wear some day/when I lose more weight. I already avoid embellishments, busy patterns and logos/words. I'm 5'9". I'm almost into Tall fits but when I've tried, especially with jeans, I end up needing hemming or they're strangely too big elsewhere even if the regular size isn't too big. I do find that a lot of shirts/knits are too short on me- of course the bust is a factor but maybe I have a longish torso too. I am curious about necklines - I am thinking of stepping away from crew neck and boat neck. Seems like V-neck (not too low of course) may flatter me most. |
Anonymous
I shop here, too. I love the Adams Morgan location. I have narrow ribs with a larger cup and they’ve been terrific at figuring out styles that work for my shape. |
Anonymous
Large breasts are simply noticeable without needing to do any peaking. Just having your eyes open, you will see large breasts. |
Anonymous
| My breast reduction was the best thing I’ve done for myself. |
Anonymous
| Just a tip- I’m a 34G and the Hilaine (online) minimizer bras are the best I’ve ever had. A good minimizer at this size is key. Other than that I wear tops that are not high cut (although not too low cut either as to not show cleavage). A modest V neck is nice. Other suggestions I would have would depend on your general body type. |
Anonymous
I pine for crisp, professional buttondowns, but have only recently discovered wardrobe tape for that gap between the buttons! I used to not be able to wear any buttondown shirts; even if the rest of the shirt flapped on me, there was always the boob gap. Now I can wear them just a little oversized 
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