People who cut in line

[Anonymous]

How do you respond to people who cut in line? I was at a coffee shop today and a woman stepped in front of me saying she wanted to peak at their dessert selection. After seeing what they had, she proceeded to keep standing in front of me and ordered first.

I’m curious how others respond in situations like this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you respond to people who cut in line? I was at a coffee shop today and a woman stepped in front of me saying she wanted to peak at their dessert selection. After seeing what they had, she proceeded to keep standing in front of me and ordered first.

I’m curious how others respond in situations like this?

I honestly don't think I'd do anything because I get so infuriated by things like that, I feel like if I let myself start talking to address it there's a good chance I'd end up on the news. But I would be mad about it all day.

Probably not helpful.

[Anonymous]

I usually do nothing. It doesn't really affect my life, because usually I'm not pressed for time, or in line for a product that's going to run out. If that were the case, I would say something.

[Anonymous]

I might subtly get the eye of the barista, with a smile and a pointed look at the line cutter. That sometimes works to have the barista say "I believe you were next?"

But I have never felt *good* about confronting an antisocial person. I have felt right, but not good. So I usually let it go and imagine that they are suffering somehow, and that makes them incapable of applying what they learned in kindergarten.

[Anonymous]

OP here. PP your comment is helpful, because it’s my same response. At least I know I’m not crazy lol.

[Anonymous]

Pardon me, miss…but the end of the line is over there.

^^^
That’s what I typically say.

[Anonymous]

I usually tell them where the line is.

But it depends on the circumstances. Are they very old, have a couple of toddlers in tow, checking out and have 1 or 2 items only, i'd let them go ahead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pardon me, miss…but the end of the line is over there.

^^^
That’s what I typically say.

That’s perfect!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I might subtly get the eye of the barista, with a smile and a pointed look at the line cutter. That sometimes works to have the barista say "I believe you were next?"

But I have never felt *good* about confronting an antisocial person. I have felt right, but not good. So I usually let it go and imagine that they are suffering somehow, and that makes them incapable of applying what they learned in kindergarten.

Unfortunately, people act this way because no one calls them out and they can get away with it. I'd like to say i'd make a big fuss, but I'd probably just sigh or say excuse me or something else polite. I like the post above as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pardon me, miss…but the end of the line is over there.

^^^
That’s what I typically say.

This is what I say as well. In a non-confrontational way most of the time.

[Anonymous]

Speak up. “Excuse me but I was here first” and then proceed to order with the Barista. People need to stand up for themselves and reinforce social norms.

[Anonymous]

"Excuse me - the line starts over there." I was raised by a Karen and am totally fine with confronting people who try to do me wrong.

[Anonymous]

I do nothing but if I'm with someone or happen to make eye contact with another person who saw it happen, I will exchange "WTF" looks and engage in collective dislike for the line-cutter.

In general, I'm a patient person and don't really mind waiting in line. I can go back to my book or whatever I was reading on my phone, nbd. It's definitely rude though, I don't understand people who are pushy like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do nothing but if I'm with someone or happen to make eye contact with another person who saw it happen, I will exchange "WTF" looks and engage in collective dislike for the line-cutter.

In general, I'm a patient person and don't really mind waiting in line. I can go back to my book or whatever I was reading on my phone, nbd. It's definitely rude though, I don't understand people who are pushy like that.

You contribute to that by not speaking up.

They are counting on you to stay quiet.

[Anonymous]

It would depend on the mood I was in at the time and whether I think that move was done on purpose versus she forgot that she’d gotten in front of me. If I’m in a bad mood, I’m ordering after the person who was always in front of me and I’m going to remind the line-cutter that I was in line first and she asked to get closer to the dessert menu, but it’s my turn to order. I will do it loud enough for the barista to overhear. If I’m in a good mood and not in any particular hurry, I wouldn’t force the issue but when line-cutter turns around after ordering, I might smile and say, hi, remember me? If line-cutter appears to be a confused old lady or a frazzled mom with multiple kids and one of them crying, I’m gonna let it go.