Best way to thank someone for a carpool favor?
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Anonymous
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New to highs school carpooling. In the past we worked out reciprocal arrangements, but now the situation is a little different.
I have to be at an evening job at a time where I can get there after my dds sports practice but not her games. I needed someone to help driver home from the games. Dd identified someone she kinda knows (new to school) on the team who lives near us who said she could give DD a lift home from some games. What is a proper thank you since this isn't reciprocal? Send her with a snack to share? Sending some money for gas feels like a college kid chipping in for a tank of gas...or would that be appreciated ? I want to make sure I don't come off as rude since I don't really know this woman but she's doing me such a favor. What's the etiquette here? |
Anonymous
| I would thank the parent profusely and ask if I could chip in gas money. If the parent declines, say "Let me know if I can return the favor at another point - I really appreciate your help". Then at the end of the season, send a thank you note/e-mail. Maybe an inexpensive bouquet - something fresh and simple from a grocery store - not a themed FTD type thing. |
Anonymous
| Can you offer to drive the other girl home from practice? (Since you said you pick your DD up anyway) |
Anonymous
| Visa gift card and drive/pick up from their house if possible.That's not a car pool. Carpool is you both driving and you aren't. |
Anonymous
This |
Anonymous
| I think a Visa gift card is tacky. Better that you have your DD invite the girl over and you feed them a nice dinner and fun activity. |
Anonymous
This |
Anonymous
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Offer to drive their daughter home from practices.
But other than that and a sincere thank you, I don’t think you need to do more than that. |
Anonymous
| If it’s feasible, offer to take the other kid early to games for warmups, which would give the other family an extra 30-60 minutes before they have to show up. |
Anonymous
| Offer to drive their kid when your schedule allows. |
Anonymous
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I’ve offered to drive a kid midweek from their school because I literally drive right past it to take DD to practice. They have practice 3x a week but only need my help 1x per week.
I told the mom I would appreciate it if I was ever stuck on a weekend I’d appreciate her returning the favor then. So offer to reciprocate when you can. Even if it’s not equal it will be appreciated |
Anonymous
| Whatever do, do not take their offer as the family is now your go-to Uber. Another thread on here a while ago about parents offering favor and families taking advantage and by some posts they don’t even know or think they were. If need other car favors, look elsewhere. If never do anything for other family than that, they will be happier. |
Anonymous
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We have the drivers in this situation and we were
- taken out to a nice dinner at the end of the season to say thank you - given a tote bag with some cute things in it as a thank you Both were so unnecessary but so appreciated! |
Anonymous
| Give them gas |
Anonymous
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I do this for other families and I promise I do not mind. A kind thank you would suffice for me.
Hopefully one day you return the favor. |