If you’re divorced or divorcing, how bad would your ex have to be for you to post all over social media about them?

[Anonymous]

Several people I know have done this, alleging their ex was abusive. But I find this very uncomfortable, and sort of wrong to do if there are kids involved.

Am I just a pushover? My ex did push/shoved me once during our separation during an ugly emotional argument. I thought about calling the police, but ended up calling my parents instead and dh took off. As ugly as it was, it solidified my certainty about leaving him, and I’d never consider posting about it.

Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

I never posted about my ex husband while married or divorced. It was a bad marriage. I would not air my dirty laundry. That is crazy.

[Anonymous]

OP, you must hang with a really trashy crowd. I've never seen anyone post anything like this about any ex, ever.

[Anonymous]

Never been in this situation, but I would not share.

Not to protect him, but because it's no one's damn business.

[Anonymous]

Nothing good can come from posting this on social media.

[Anonymous]

They would need to be a serial killer out canvassing for their next kill.

Unless, he’s literally about to kill or injure someone, blasting the person you married and chose to father your children is just idiotic. It makes YOU look bad and it’s embarrassing for your kids.

[Anonymous]

I would never do this. He’s the father of my children and I’d never want to hurt them but, even then, posting this kind of thing makes you look like the crazy person.

BTW, I’ve only seen a post like this once. The stepmom of a kid in one of my kid’s classes posted about her husband (the kid’s father) cheating. She was pregnant and her husband (a doctor) was boffing a nurse who was also married. She tagged the nurse. It was quite entertaining as a bystander to see the drama unfold. I felt awful for the kids and kids’ mother (the first wife). The woman who posted this had a ton of previous FB posts of her holding Chanel bags, with a new Mercedes with a bow on it, etc. She is exactly the type you’d expect to publicly air her husband’s dirty laundry.

[Anonymous]

I was abused, and I did. My social media was locked to friends only, so the audience was somewhat limited. It was a very important part of claiming the reality of what was happening to me, especially because a lot of the abuse was gaslighting, psychological abuse.

I don't regret it. I'm sad that there wasn't a better way for me to get to the support I needed without putting my business on the internet, but the isolation was also intentional. I did meet some judgment about it; those people are no longer my friends. If your response to someone's suffering is to call them trashy because you don't like how they're communicating about their life, you might want to look in the mirror (and go to church)...

I got the support I needed, and have deleted all my social media. Contrary to the popular narrative, I wasn't looking for attention, nor did I "enjoy drama". I needed help, so I asked on the channel I had available. I'm grateful to those who helped, and to those who used some of my darkest moments to reveal their true colors.

[Anonymous]

Yes those that post on social media about their exes lack decency as well as class.

While their anger may be justified, it still shows how little self-restraint that they possess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was abused, and I did. My social media was locked to friends only, so the audience was somewhat limited. It was a very important part of claiming the reality of what was happening to me, especially because a lot of the abuse was gaslighting, psychological abuse.

I don't regret it. I'm sad that there wasn't a better way for me to get to the support I needed without putting my business on the internet, but the isolation was also intentional. I did meet some judgment about it; those people are no longer my friends. If your response to someone's suffering is to call them trashy because you don't like how they're communicating about their life, you might want to look in the mirror (and go to church)...

I got the support I needed, and have deleted all my social media. Contrary to the popular narrative, I wasn't looking for attention, nor did I "enjoy drama". I needed help, so I asked on the channel I had available. I'm grateful to those who helped, and to those who used some of my darkest moments to reveal their true colors.

I am so glad you got the support you needed and that you used your voice to help yourself. Eff these people who can't understand how isolated and desperate abuse can make a person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes those that post on social media about their exes lack decency as well as class.

While their anger may be justified, it still shows how little self-restraint that they possess.

You have no idea. Unless you have been through this, you have no idea how you might act when you need support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes those that post on social media about their exes lack decency as well as class.

While their anger may be justified, it still shows how little self-restraint that they possess.

-someone who can't even restrain their own tongue about things that aren't even their business

[Anonymous]

MYOB.
You way of doing things isn't the only way.

[Anonymous]

No amount but I don’t post to social media. I would probably ultimately share with a wider circle of 10-20 close friends depending on how much support I need.

[Anonymous]

I would never put my business out on SM.