Second baby at 48

[Anonymous]

I got a very late start to marriage and family. Married at 41 first baby at 43. DD was a surprise as we weren't exactly planning her but we have been happy . It now seems we may have a second on the way. Still need to confirm and I realize at my age it's likely that I won't go to term.
But if I do...I guess I need some reassurance with the possibility of having a 6 year old and a newborn at nearly 50 and DH at over 50.

[Anonymous]

It's going to be tough, anyone who says otherwise is lying. But there are a lot of situations where parenting can be tough. And you make adjustments and figure things out to make things work

[Anonymous]

I just had my second at 44. He’s sleeping on me now and I absolutely love it. My perspective is this baby as an amazing gift to enjoy and treasure. Wishing you the best!

[Anonymous]

What do you mean by it seems you have another child on the way? You are either pregnant or not pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by it seems you have another child on the way? You are either pregnant or not pregnant.

It means the home test is positive but that doesn't mean anything.

[Anonymous]

A baby is a blessing. It will be harder in some ways but perhaps easier in other ways (financial security, for example). Wishing you a healthy pregnancy. Children are hard, but they also keep you young!

[Anonymous]

It is fine. Ours came late in life and everything turned out fine. Any newborn at any parental age will cause some sleep deprivation, especially in the first months, but you already know that.

[Anonymous]

I had my first at 43 and twins at 46. They are the best things in my life! I am now 67

[Anonymous]

Congratulations!!

[Anonymous]

One of the moms in my kid’s class just had a baby at 46. They had adopted their first child after being told that it was unlikely they’d ever conceive naturally. Her husband is 10 years older. They’re over the moon.

[Anonymous]

NP. Well, as a parent of a child with a genetic condition that's made life very rough for our entire family, I would absolutely do all the testing and I would recommend terminating in case of trisomy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by it seems you have another child on the way? You are either pregnant or not pregnant.

DP
Can you read? She’s 48 - a pregnancy at 48 doesn’t mean there is a child on the way. More than likely it means in a month or two she will miscarry. She’s concerned in the unlikely event that the pregnancy goes to term.

[Anonymous]

The odds are below 1%? Heck, at 35 I could no longer carry to term. My body killed literally every baby we made.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The odds are below 1%? Heck, at 35 I could no longer carry to term. My body killed literally every baby we made.

Don’t be a nasty cow. When I gave birth at GW at 39, I could see the first names and ages of all the admitted mothers written on the nursing station board. There were plenty in their 40s-all with babies. You’ll find plenty of “geriatric moms” in the DC area.

[Anonymous]

It will be fine if you can afford a full-time nanny during your maternity leave and beyond. If one of you isn't working outside the home, then a part-time nanny.