BF-GF sleepovers

[Anonymous]

I’m told that it is commonly accepted by parents that their teenagers will have sleepovers with their boyfriends or girlfriends. I completely floored by this concept and not sure if I should believe what I’m hearing. Is this really a thing these days where parents just go along with this or even enable it on summer trips?

[Anonymous]

NFW. You're "hearing" lies

[Anonymous]

14? Or 19?

[Anonymous]

I think that a number of my kids' friends are allowed to do this, and at least as many aren't.

We've had my son's girlfriend sleep at our house when we're leaving for something early in the morning, and taken her on vacation. She sleeps in my daughter's room, and my son sleeps in his the room he shares with his brother.

I know people who find that repressive, and people who find it shockingly permissive.

[Anonymous]

You cannot be serious. In college, maybe.

[Anonymous]

Don’t believe everything you hear. This is not common at all.

I let my DD have her boyfriend stay over but they are both 20 and in college. No way would I let this happen in HS. Pretty sure I’m an outlier.

[Anonymous]

Interesting...
This is allowed HOWEVER its a hard no to Travis Scott and Tyler TC concerts.

Anyways - Nope. Not common in OUR home at those ages and stages.

Run your home how you see fit ..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t believe everything you hear. This is not common at all.

I let my DD have her boyfriend stay over but they are both 20 and in college. No way would I let this happen in HS. Pretty sure I’m an outlier.

We are non-White, non-Christian UMC immigrants from a moderately conservative society. My kids did not even have the time to date in HS. They dated in college, but, we were not told about it and we never asked. They knew that we would not approve of random BFs and GFs being paraded in front of us. They knew that they had to find people we would approve of and only come to us when they needed the permission to marry.

[Anonymous]

LOL this sounds like when my daughter tells me that *everyone*/*all of my friends* is [fill in the blank]. Not true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m told that it is commonly accepted by parents that their teenagers will have sleepovers with their boyfriends or girlfriends. I completely floored by this concept and not sure if I should believe what I’m hearing. Is this really a thing these days where parents just go along with this or even enable it on summer trips?

If your kid is telling you this to get you on board: no it's not "commonly accepted." If your kid is telling you this so you can be as shocked as they were when they found out that one of their friend's parents allowed this: yes some families do allow this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t believe everything you hear. This is not common at all.

I let my DD have her boyfriend stay over but they are both 20 and in college. No way would I let this happen in HS. Pretty sure I’m an outlier.

We are non-White, non-Christian UMC immigrants from a moderately conservative society. My kids did not even have the time to date in HS. They dated in college, but, we were not told about it and we never asked. They knew that we would not approve of random BFs and GFs being paraded in front of us. They knew that they had to find people we would approve of and only come to us when they needed the permission to marry.

Permission? ROTFL. Are they married now? Did they marry into white families? Just wondering.

[Anonymous]

IME, this is not common.

However, if your kid tells you that a bunch of parents allow/enable underage drinking in their homes, that one is true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t believe everything you hear. This is not common at all.

I let my DD have her boyfriend stay over but they are both 20 and in college. No way would I let this happen in HS. Pretty sure I’m an outlier.

We are non-White, non-Christian UMC immigrants from a moderately conservative society. My kids did not even have the time to date in HS. They dated in college, but, we were not told about it and we never asked. They knew that we would not approve of random BFs and GFs being paraded in front of us. They knew that they had to find people we would approve of and only come to us when they needed the permission to marry.

You sound like the parents of one of my friends (who slept around like crazy) and then married her DH without telling her parents. Crummy parents.

[Anonymous]

Depends. I allow(ed) it for them in college. Never came up in high school.

[Anonymous]

I have never heard of this. My teen has had a GF for over a year and has slept over at her family’s weekend home a few times. However, in each instance, her parents and I communicated beforehand and it was made clear he would be sleeping with her brother. They’ve never suggested a sleepover at home, nor would either set of parents allow it.