Adult child doesn’t like people

[Anonymous]

Is it normal for my adult child (20’s) to not spend time when we have people over?
She says she has her own life and wants to do her own thing?

[Anonymous]

Who are the people you’re having over? Your friends who are your age?

[Anonymous]

She doesn't know how to network.

[Anonymous]

It’s fine, I have no interest in spending time with my friends’ kids either. She needs to say hello and goodbye at most, then we the guests don’t care (and even if she doesn’t we still don’t care).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Is it normal for my adult child (20’s) to not spend time when we have people over?
She says she has her own life and wants to do her own thing?

Your title is misleading. Your adult "child' doesn't like your friends. Who cares? As long as tgey are polite

[Anonymous]

They have their own life, with presumably their own friends? So they like some people, but not others, and above all, they don't want to spend time with you and your boring friends like they had to do when they were little?

That's NORMAL.

[Anonymous]

Perfectly normal OP.

I'm a bit worried about one of my 20s relatives because all they seem to do is spend time with their parents and their parent's friends. Who are not great networking prospects either, even they are very nice people.

It's best if they make friends and hang out with people in their own peer group in their 20s OP.

[Anonymous]

Seems fine. Don’t you want her to have her own life and do her own thing?

[Anonymous]

Why does your adult child live at home?

[Anonymous]

I don’t see evidence that she doesn’t like people, she’s just doesn’t like YOUR people!

[Anonymous]

Does she refuse to acknowledge them when she's at your house at the same time or is she declining your invitations to parties with your friends?

[Anonymous]

It's totally normal. In fact, the opposite- where she wants to spend all her time with parents and their friends and can't relate to people in her own age cohort- would be FAR more concerning. I don't see anything weird about her not wanting to hang around listening to the latest on Linda's joint issues nor do I see anything indicating she "doesn't like people."

[Anonymous]

Why is your adult child living with you?

[Anonymous]

Your adult daughter is not a child and does not want to spend her time entertaining your guests. I'm sure she would much rather spend time with people her own age. You, alone, are responsible for entertaining your friends in your house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is your adult child living with you?

Probably the same reason many twentysomethings live with their parents. Housing is extremely expensive and young people do not have enough income to pay for it. Many are also still in school are they are home for the summer.